Over thinking is ruining my life..

outofthisworld

Well-known member
Everyday I pretty much make the same mistake over and over again.. and it is that I think too much, I worry about the stuff I think, I get mad from the stuff I think, I make false assumptions.:kickingmyself:

A valid example from today...
So I've been seeing this girl, we are both very busy people so we see each other everyday because she works when I go eat.. so we say hi and talk a little but not much because I'm always with coworkers and I get shy to talk to her that much...
So we meet once a weekend at my place, because neither of us likes going out which is a huge plus... this is the 4th week we've met...
and each week is getting so much better,, we watched couple movies, and were cuddling and kissing, it was really nice...

now back to the over thinking part.. on Friday night it was about midnight she said hi to me on Facebook because she lost the last bus home and she was sleeping at her cousin.. and we spoke very few words and the way I am.. the 1st thing I thought was that she is mad at me that something I said.. because she lost her phone I didn't talk to her since today.. so I was Friday night and the whole Saturday over thinking that I lost my chance, that I didn't something wrong.. That I didn't deserve her... and I've been so really down about it... until today at 1 pm when she called me and guess what.. everything was just like we left off.. and the awesomeness thing is that today was the best time we ever been together,, I told her about my sweaty palms and guess what she didn't care about and still wanted to touch my hands and we were touching each other all the time and I also told her about my social anxiety and she also didn't care about it...It's so freaking cool.

but this too much thinking is slowing my life down way too much.. and I don't think there is a solution to stop.
 

Sacrament

Well-known member
Humans are designed to think too much. The best thing to do is to just calmly acknowledge all the bad stuff that goes on but remain connected to the rational side of things, which, on that particular situation, was telling you that you did nothing wrong. Simplify as much as you can, otherwise it's gonna keep getting messy and thoughts will keep getting tangled, which results in your emotions and reactions being all over the place.
 
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