Overwhelming feeling of missing someone?

n12345

Member
Missing someone naturally hurts but does anyone notice they get worse symptoms than most people (you would think). I think it links to anxiety because it feels almost like a panic.

I'm talking about like missing your girlfriend too. If I'm missing my mom I feel like I can control it but theres been times ive missed people that wasnt my mom and I felt like i couldn't control it! I def think it has to do with anxiety. And I get shy around that person when I get those feelings.
 
I get that too.It only happens when I like someone and am developing feelings.I almost feel crippled if i am not with them..I miss them so much.Its almost like a drug addict not getting their drug of choice.Its too much to bear so I usually end up running away from someone I like.Not good.
 

LonelyGirl

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I think it's worse for me than it is for most people and I imagaine it would be the same for other people with SA. Anxiety stops me from meeting people and making friends so it's not often I meet someone I really like (as a friend or boyfriend or anything). This means I get more attatched to the few people who mean a lot to me and when I'm separated from them I never get over it.
 

n12345

Member
Its like I get that attached and when it finally reduces to just a regular missing someone feeling I am like why the heck did I feel that way before? It doesnt feel normal missing someone that much and I know its not, because when I get the "normal" missing feeling Its bad but of course its good just knowing you ARE missing someone but when the anxiety kicks in it takes it to a whole 'nother level...
 

alex29

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I devote myself entirely to a person who I feel a connection with...so when they arent around it drives me crazy!
 

Meow

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It sounds like "abandonment" issues. I am SO like this, I have Borderline Personality Disorder and it's a huge symptom. Maybe look that up? It goes hand in hand with anxiety disorders and depression.
 

recluse

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Well there was a girl who abandoned me and have been reluctant to be close to anyone ever since, but i won't go to any details about it apart from that it was 6 years ago and i was heartbroken.
 

n12345

Member
Well it was sorda like that... The only time ive ever had this prob was last yr when a girl I was talkin to sorda just stopped talkin to me but I think she liked me but couldnt date me but thats besides the point.

But it was like I couldnt b away from her but when I was with her I couldnt act normal around her and didnt know what to do it was so weird... And I felt like I needed to be around her all the time even though I KNEW there was NO point in thinking that way... It was very miserable..
 

adhd30

Member
I have this problem exactly with my girlfriend at them moment, she's working in a country very far away, working very hard, leaving almost not even enough time to check her emails, the reason I found this site was actually I searched for "missing someone too much" because I am starting to panic, feeling so powerless.
 

adhd30

Member
so very sorry to hear that, it's the worst pain you can experience if you ask me, worse than when a loved one dies, again that is my opinion.
 

WeirdyMcGee

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My grandpa died in February - sometimes when I think about how much I miss him, I get physically ill and throw up, which is one of the many side effects I get from anxiety.

And being reminded constantly of my ex, I get anxiety attacks and heart palpitations and unstoppable weeping at the most inopportune time. Even 3 years after he left me. There's still a giant gaping hole, in my chest.
 

adhd30

Member
sorry to hear about both your losses, I guess you can find comfort in that there are others that know that feeling all too well, like the tagline says, "you are not alone", it comforts me to think that way at least.
 

DeadmanWalking

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I miss those in my life that have died, like my great-grandmother in particular. When I first met her, I was acting so distant towards her and I regret that whenever I think of her. I should have acted at least a little friendly towards her, but I can't now. If I could meet her again, I would tell her I'm sorry and that, no matter how cold I am, I will always love her.

I also miss my first real crush on someone. When I was with her, I felt so brave and strong; I did a lot of foolish things for her, like openly scooting over to her desk that was a little bit far away from mine, just so I could talk with her::eek::. I also acted with so much bravado when I was around her, but then, I had to leave due to "family problems". The next time I saw her, I completely froze and became speechless; I couldn't even speak to her. The last moment I remember was my graduation from 6th grade and I wanted to tell her how beautiful she looked. But, I lost the courage and my friend had to tell her for me; her response was "thank you." I wish I could turn back the hands of time and tell her everything that was on my heart.
 

adhd30

Member
you sound like a shy romantic, with a lot of love bottled up inside you, something you should be proud of!
 

vexatiousmind

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I miss people, but I miss who they were. Would do no good to get in contact with them now, because they are not the people I loved anymore.

It is hard to accept, but after a while you learn to be grateful for the time they were in your life.

People come and go, some friends are for life, some are for a brief period. To me this has no impact on that person significance, or my love for them. Some people come into your life when you need them, and then they are gone. Be grateful for them, take what you learned from them, and use it to better your life. Never stop your life, it is way to hard to get it running again.:p
 
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