Paranoia has become much worse

greggy

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Hey everyone, just want to ask if there's anyone here is suffering with this, when im out around people everyone i encounter i think they are thinking all sorts of awefull things about me, to the point were i've started to believe that im not a good person, i really dont know how to remedy this
 
i had the same problem. just take a deep breath and try to join in alittle. not too much at first so you dont say anything awkward.
 

greggy

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i had the same problem. just take a deep breath and try to join in alittle. not too much at first so you dont say anything awkward.

Haha it's funny you should say that, some times because im so nervious around people i say stupid things and people think im a idiot, hate that
 
You gotta realize, you're the only one thinking those thoughts. You're the one who is judging yourself, they are not judging you. And by judging yourself, you're starting to believe you're not a good person. And by believing you're not a good person, you start to come to more negative conclusions about yourself. So all of your misery is simply coming from yourself... nothing else.

Try to look at that rationally and see how ridiculous it is. Not that I'm saying you're ridiculous, like ThatGuyInThere said we've all been there. You just gotta see the negative cycle for what it is and break it.

Just whenever you start getting any negative thoughts creeping in like that, remember they are just voices... and you don't have to listen to them... however if you do listen to them, things will get much worse for you, as you can see that's already happened, considering you now believe you're a bad person. Of course, if you ignore them and only focus on the positives, you'll start to build confidence back in the positive direction so you no longer have those voices keeping you down.
 
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Sacrament

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Try to live outside of yourself more than you live within your own thoughts. Focus on what people around you are saying and engage on that (because that's what's really happening, and you're letting it slip by because you're wrapped in your own thoughts). The more outwardly you focus, the less you focus negatively toward yourself, which can result in a much better experience overall, and making a much better impression on people around you.
 

ScaredToBreathe

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I agree with what caden posted. You have to rationalize and try to look at yourself from an outside perspective. So, think about if someone went up to you and said or did the things you criticise yourself for, would you think that person is stupid? Would you judge them? Would you laugh at them or be impolite? Or would you brush it off and continue to engage with that person even if they made a mistake or did or said something silly? Most people won't care; people are usually more focused on themselves and when they messed up, not you. So try taking that 3rd person perspective instead of 1st.

I have these bad thoughts too, and I know they're not easy to control when you have an inferiority complex. What I tend to do is not talk much because I am afraid of saying something wrong too, and I am bad at starting personal conversations because I think I don't really have anything interesting to talk about and I'd just bore the other person or come off as self-centred talking about events in my life (even though people do that all the time to me; starting a conversation about something they did or something that happened to them. It makes me wonder why people are so eager to disclose their personal lives to others; it would make me uncomfortable to talk about myself...I just think it matters to me, so why would they care?) :(
 
I have these bad thoughts too, and I know they're not easy to control when you have an inferiority complex. What I tend to do is not talk much because I am afraid of saying something wrong too, and I am bad at starting personal conversations because I think I don't really have anything interesting to talk about and I'd just bore the other person or come off as self-centred talking about events in my life

Be careful with those thoughts right there. When you say "I am bad at starting personal conversations" or "I'd just bore the other person", you are reinforcing those negative beliefs about yourself, and they only become more and more true.

This is what I was basically trying to get across in my post before. We have to look out for those negative thoughts that we believe to be true, and ignore them and look for evidence that proves otherwise.

The reason is because behavior comes from beliefs. If you believe deep down that you're boring and might say something wrong, then the chances of that happening are actually very high. So, then you experience a situation that reconfirms that belief and it gets stronger. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Try to be conscious about your negative thoughts about yourself and don't take them to be true. Over time the more you do this and start to find proof that you actually can do those things, the more that belief weakens and the belief that you can do those things gets stronger until one day you no longer have a problem at all.
 

ff5fan19

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Hey everyone, just want to ask if there's anyone here is suffering with this, when im out around people everyone i encounter i think they are thinking all sorts of awefull things about me, to the point were i've started to believe that im not a good person, i really dont know how to remedy this

i am the same exact way!!! everywhere i go i feel like somebody is talking bad about me. if i see someone laughing i think they're laughing at me. it's a horrible feeling. i tell myself that they're not but then i realize that there is bad people out in this world that will talk about you and so i don't really know if they're laughing at me or not.
 

JayHender

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I know the feeling. I feel like people think I am dumb cos of what I say, or fat (I don't think I am fat) or just plain boring to be around. It ends up that I say dumb stuff then hate myself for it afterwards.
I don't know if you have a psychologist but mine helped me with my other issues by introducing the thought of a happy room. It is basically a room where everything is perfect. I practise going to this room in my head and it helps me to forget current thoughts. It sounds kinda lame I know but it does help me.
 

Graeme1988

Hie yer hence from me heath!
I know the feeling. I feel like people think I am dumb cos of what I say, or fat (I don't think I am fat) or just plain boring to be around. It ends up that I say dumb stuff then hate myself for it afterwards.

Aw, Jay, ah know that feelin' aw too well. But then ah think folk think ah'm dumb anaw, coz ah've got yin o' them face, y'know? Ah've always got that "The light 're oan, but naebuddy's hame" look aboot me. A bit glakit as we say in Scotland. Feel tae laugh it that, ah dinnae mind, honest.

I don't know if you have a psychologist but mine helped me with my other issues by introducing the thought of a happy room. It is basically a room where everything is perfect. I practise going to this room in my head and it helps me to forget current thoughts. It sounds kinda lame I know but it does help me.

Doesnae sound lame, ataw. Whit ye oan aboot, man?! It's sound great. Ah mean, yer talkin' aboot a room where everythin's perfect... Cannae see anythin' wrong wi' that - imaginary or otherwise. :thumbup: Aside fae no' bein' able tae rent it oot.* :bigsmile:

* Sorry, nae offense intended there, hope ah wus'nae bein' too flippant wi' that last joke?
 
i am the same exact way!!! everywhere i go i feel like somebody is talking bad about me. if i see someone laughing i think they're laughing at me. it's a horrible feeling. i tell myself that they're not but then i realize that there is bad people out in this world that will talk about you and so i don't really know if they're laughing at me or not.

Even if those people were judging you and laughing at you (and they're not), why should you allow that to make you feel so bad about yourself? Why should other's opinions about you ruin your whole life?

You and only you are giving your power away by caring what others think and then being affected negatively by it. You gotta realize this and stop giving other people power over you and take your life back.

Hope that helps give some insight.
 

planetweirdo

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Hey everyone, just want to ask if there's anyone here is suffering with this, when im out around people everyone i encounter i think they are thinking all sorts of awefull things about me, to the point were i've started to believe that im not a good person, i really dont know how to remedy this

I constantly worry about rather or not people think I'm a loser. Every time I come into contact with someone that I don't know well, the first thought that pops into my head is that they think I'm a loser or a bad person or that I'm too weird or something. Sometimes I even wonder if people that act friendly towards me, still make fun of me behind my back.

This may sound weird, but I'm even so paranoid that when I watch TV, I sometimes worry that if the actors and actress form the show knew me, would they hate me or think I'm crazy or a loser.
 

dannyboy65

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I've always been paranoid. I always think people are out to get me and I'm always nervous talking to people. After a sentence I re think what I just said and ask if that was the right thing to say. I guess I just control it, I'll always be paranoid, but that doesn't have to stop me from living my life. I say try your best to push yourself and who knows good things may happen.
 

miserablecow

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That's how I feel too. Also I suffer from psychosis so I've believed the government is after me and experimenting on me (including my parents). It's a horrible feeling.
 
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