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Past negative judgements - are they fair?
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combat
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But most of us already know this from a rational standpoint. In most parts of my own life I've received enough positive affirmations that I know people aren't constantly judging me negatively. However, I still have moments of insecurity, particularly when in unfamiliar surroundings or settings/situations. I also have only ever experienced rejection from women, so I have no positive experiences to lean on that might help me fight my fears in that regard.
It is really fucking hard and it's not as simple as just believing that I'm not being judged negatively. I already know it. It just doesn't help.
I am sorry, we suffer very different then. I have always believed I am being judged negatively all the time, I didn't consider that there are people who don't believe they are being judged negatively all of the time.
Sorry for presuming wrong, I've deleted my post.
combat
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It really wasn't necessary to delete the post. It also isn't necessary to apologize. We aren't all the same here. You made some great points, I was just pointing out that the problem - for me at least - goes beyond what I know or believe to be true.
As to believing you're being judged *all* the time... I used to be a lot worse than I am now, so I understand entirely where you're coming from. We really don't suffer that differently, I've just managed to minimize it in some aspects of my life over the years.
Thanks for your comments. Its ok about deleting my post, I know from personal experience of reading these forums that when people say 'the answer is this...' and you read it and are thinking 'Well no its not for everyone as its not applicable for me' - its somewhat frustrating. I'll write a similar post later in the week where I write it more in terms of personal experience rather than 'this is the answer' for everyone.