People staring?

typewriterx

Well-known member
Sooo, I have a question. For the rural area I live in, I dress a little out of the ordinary I guess. Because of this, people generally stare. Some people aren't very tactful about it, but in school lately I've been running into this problem a lot. This one girl keeps staring very obviously. Does she not know what peripheral vision is?

Anyways, I was wondering how to deal with this? I can understand people in the grocery store or whatnot, but these are people I go to school with, and they should be used to me by now. Ignoring her doesn't work. For some reason I feel like it should be addressed, because it makes me very uncomfortable, someone blatantly looking you completely over.

What do I do? I was thinking, perhaps, just smiling and saying hello? Maybe introduce myself? Maybe it would take away some of the "God she's f#$^ing weird" idea, if she realized I was a nice, normal, average person? Or is this just a ridiculous idea altogether?
 
If I were you, I would smile and say hello, that way she will either talk to you or at least turn away and stop staring, because she knows you have noticed her staring.
If you are friendly and she's not, you'll know she is not worth worrying about.
 
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Hellhound

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You could say hello to them, introduce yourself or something... or smile at them. Maybe they are looking at you because you are nice to look at, maybe they are shy to talk, maybe they are waiting for you to say something first... Just try it, What's the worse it can happen?. If they aren't nice, then it will be their problem, they will be the weird ones, not you.
 

lithium

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I hate when people stare. It makes me want to scream and freak out, thus giving them something to actually look at.
 

Harleyq

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I know what you mean, lol. I live in a small, rural bible belt and sometimes people stare at me just for wearing a pair of combat boots. In high school I remember at least a couple of times my friends told me they overheard someone go "What is she wearing!?" I just trekked on the best I knew how to and didn't say anything to them. I think the best advice is to smile and say hello. They'll probably feel embarrassed that you acknowledged them and were nice to them because I think most of the time, they don't intend for you to see them staring.
 

scissorhands

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I think alot of times in this type of case the person is actually pretty intrigued by you and interested. Sometimes to the point they're jealous. The best thing I think is to be friendly and say hello. They'll be less jealous and less likely to be mean in some way if you do.
 

invisible_girl

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I have issues with people staring but I wonder if it is my own paranoia. I hate it when guys stare. It makes me incredibly uncomfortable (to no fault of their own though- it is my issue and just human nature on their part). It leaves me wondering what is wrong with me but then i try to be rational about it (good luck). This is something I would like to work on, not being so paranoid and anxious and awkward.
 

sullyS1985

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I am not judging or anything by asking this and im not trying to be a dickhead but do you think you dress the way you do so people will notice you? I have done this myself where i will by a shirt that is considered out of the ordinary and tried to see if anyone has noticed me. I also think you should say hello to those that stare at you and you may think are judging you negatively just at least throw a wrench in the gears. If they think you are a weirdo think it would be awesome for you to say hello in a very sincere way. On the other side of things though, i have been caught looking at someone dressed out of the ordinary and they have responded in what i thought was a very rude way. So i guess all I'm saying is that if you are going to confront them do it in a nice sincere way so they arent put off by it.
 
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