Why do some people have to constantly critisise others for the way they live there lives. Why does it bother them so much that some people are different to how they are.
like for instance im not really into clubbing, i go occasionally but i rarely enjoy myself. The whole thing just doesnt appeal to me.
Well Someone asked me the other day where I like to go out and I replied that I go to a few places but I dont really like going out much I prefer to stay in and watch films with friends or read books, and they were like, "whats wrong with you, you dont like going out to bars, you should get out more and start living your life".
Now its this "you should" statement that annoys me. Why should I be doing this just because youve told me i should. as if I was put on this earth to do something I hate, and be unhappy for the sake of what someone else thinks I should be doing. It baffles me that they have this need for me to be like them. I can honestly say that i dont care what anyone does with their life, so long as their happy and it doesnt directly affect my life im totally cool with it.
My dad constantly says i frustrate him. This is because of things like not wanting a promotion at a certain job or not wanting to buy a new car, even though my old banger works and does the job. I dont want these things because I dont need them and I know they wont make me happy. I like doing the work im doing and a promotion would mean more money but a job i would hate. but my dad has this idea that to have a good life you need to have a respectable career, a big house and lots of money. why does it annoy him so much that i dont share this view. its like he cares more about his own pride than my happiness. can anyone shed some light as to why some people need to constantly judge others?
im always being told by people I need to change my ways and I think its this constant judgement and criticism that caused my sa when i was younger.
Does anyone else feel that people always interfere in their lives and that the constant pressure to perform to societies expectations is what causes their anxiety? does anyone do activties they dont enjoy to fit in or to gain respect from others or do you just do your own thing?
like for instance im not really into clubbing, i go occasionally but i rarely enjoy myself. The whole thing just doesnt appeal to me.
Well Someone asked me the other day where I like to go out and I replied that I go to a few places but I dont really like going out much I prefer to stay in and watch films with friends or read books, and they were like, "whats wrong with you, you dont like going out to bars, you should get out more and start living your life".
Now its this "you should" statement that annoys me. Why should I be doing this just because youve told me i should. as if I was put on this earth to do something I hate, and be unhappy for the sake of what someone else thinks I should be doing. It baffles me that they have this need for me to be like them. I can honestly say that i dont care what anyone does with their life, so long as their happy and it doesnt directly affect my life im totally cool with it.
My dad constantly says i frustrate him. This is because of things like not wanting a promotion at a certain job or not wanting to buy a new car, even though my old banger works and does the job. I dont want these things because I dont need them and I know they wont make me happy. I like doing the work im doing and a promotion would mean more money but a job i would hate. but my dad has this idea that to have a good life you need to have a respectable career, a big house and lots of money. why does it annoy him so much that i dont share this view. its like he cares more about his own pride than my happiness. can anyone shed some light as to why some people need to constantly judge others?
im always being told by people I need to change my ways and I think its this constant judgement and criticism that caused my sa when i was younger.
Does anyone else feel that people always interfere in their lives and that the constant pressure to perform to societies expectations is what causes their anxiety? does anyone do activties they dont enjoy to fit in or to gain respect from others or do you just do your own thing?