Perceiving negative judgements (crippling me)

Does anyone else feel crippled by what they "perceive" others think about them? I mean for me personally, I think that other people look at me and just think I'm a small stupid guy. Constantly I just feel the judgement off of people and it seems to be getting worse and worse. I keep thinking people are thinking badly of me. I know that it is impossible for me to know this, but I can't seem to help it. I'm so self conscious about every part of me, especially my physical appearance.

There's a small exercise room in my apartment and I'm afraid to use it because I don't want people to come in and see me and think I'm weird or strange for using it (It's small and old and I have never seen anyone use it).
It's like my skin is just so thin, I can't take anything. And its all coming from my mind. Also I can't change my frame of my mind, I have tried tons of CBT and it almost seems to have made things worse. I guess I'm not looking for any one liners or words of advice but just hoping to find someone who is experiencing the same things.
 

AtTheGates

Banned
yes i know what you mean. There will ALWAYS be random shallow people when you go out somewhere in public who want to judge you for ANYTHING...even people who are just having a bad day and want to project THEIR insecurity onto YOU...some people are so shallow that they want you to KNOW that they don't approve of something as trivial as the SHIRT you're wearing....theres rude/cunty people EVERY where.

as a matter of fact, its kind of funny to see those shallow peoples reactions when i wear a death metal band shirt to the grocery store...some people are so ridiculous..you can be as polite as possible, just minding your own Business and then notice some shallow/rude person out of the corner of your eye scowling at you simply because they don't like your CLOTHES.....think about how stupid that is..something so superficial...its happen to me a couple times and its kind of just amusing (ok well MORE than just a couple)...i mean really, what am i going to do about it? feel self-consious? fvck that.


i think thats how you should feel about random people judging you: just mild amusement ..and then go on with whatever it is you were doing. seriously, **** that person's opinion.


its not YOU that has a problem, its THEM.


go use that exercise room if you want to..some people MIGHT think you're weird but most people wont..and it doesn't matter anyway, at least you will have gotten use the weights/equipment .


SOME people probably think I'm weird too.....and I AM . lol
 
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Sacrament

Well-known member
I know what that's like. What I've found is that if you work on changing your perception of yourself, the things you assume from other people change too.
 

grapevine

Well-known member
Yes. I have things to get over this. But sometimes it just means hiding out and getting a bit depressed and then doing some self development.
 

Phobo

Member
Yeäh, I can fully relate as well. Always worrying that you're being negatively judged is one of the classic symptoms of social phobia. Messes me up in so many ways, too.
 
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