Physical Contact

coriander1992

Well-known member
Is this a problem for anybody else?
I don't neccesarily mean sexually, but just in general...even when it's simply recieving a hug or something.

I have a major problem with anybody touching me.
One of my friends is a touchy-feely type of person, and she just can't understand why I have to move away from her all the time.
So annoying! :roll:

Anybody else!?
 

drd77

Active member
i'm a guy and i actually feel like i need to touch women to be a happier person. hug them, hold them, whatever..i feel a tremendous longing to touch them when say a cute girl is near me, but i would never. i never really have and its sad. thats basically the opposite of what you said though so i don't know where i'm going with that. i just want a girlfriend
 

Social_Moth

Active member
coriander1992 said:
Is this a problem for anybody else?
I don't neccesarily mean sexually, but just in general...even when it's simply recieving a hug or something.

I have a major problem with anybody touching me.
One of my friends is a touchy-feely type of person, and she just can't understand why I have to move away from her all the time.
So annoying! :roll:

Anybody else!?

Nah, I'm the total opposite. I think you just need more hugs/physical contact to loosen you up :). Then you'll be good to go.
 

recluse

Well-known member
I long to cuddle up to a girl but i hate it when guys touch me, you know patting me on my back, squeezing my shoulder o'r whatever, it just makes me feel ''eugh! Get away from me!''
 

Argamemnon

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drd77 said:
i'm a guy and i actually feel like i need to touch women to be a happier person. hug them, hold them, whatever..i feel a tremendous longing to touch them when say a cute girl is near me, but i would never. i never really have and its sad. thats basically the opposite of what you said though so i don't know where i'm going with that. i just want a girlfriend
I'd much rather hug, touch or hold a woman than have sex. Like you, I sometimes feel a tremendous longing.
 

TAMPA-BAY

Well-known member
Hugs

I avoid it like the plague. I alwayse feel bad because I know the person have good intentions but I just need my space. I have like an invisible force field that I keep around me. When someone gets too close I just go in to a state of alert where my hearing gets relly sharp and my eyes stay wide open. My eyes get so wide that I dont blink and when the wind hits my face it causes my eyes to run water and teer up as if i am about to cry. The I worry that people think I am about to cry so I get even more panic-E.

Like some of the previous post said maby its a lack of practice but I dont know I still hate when my space is invaded. Like those people who have to talk to some one centermeters from the other persons face.
 

x000x

Well-known member
Argamemnon said:
drd77 said:
i'm a guy and i actually feel like i need to touch women to be a happier person. hug them, hold them, whatever..i feel a tremendous longing to touch them when say a cute girl is near me, but i would never. i never really have and its sad. thats basically the opposite of what you said though so i don't know where i'm going with that. i just want a girlfriend
I'd much rather hug, touch or hold a woman than have sex. Like you, I sometimes feel a tremendous longing.

I'm with you guys on this one, I feel the same way. I've never had a girlfriend. I've only "hung-out" with a girl about five times in my entire life and four of those five times were so she could be with my other friend because she liked him. I wish I could find a girl.
 

tpdarlo

Well-known member
I'd be more physical if I wasn't anxious, I really like to hold and touch people, I think it's an inclusive, expressive way to bond with people.
 

Jotun

Member
coriander1992 said:
Is this a problem for anybody else?
I don't neccesarily mean sexually, but just in general...even when it's simply recieving a hug or something.

I have a major problem with anybody touching me.
One of my friends is a touchy-feely type of person, and she just can't understand why I have to move away from her all the time.
So annoying! :roll:

Anybody else!?
I know what you mean. It has always been strange for me to even give someone a hand shake. Hugs are just awkward. I just think it comes from not being around people.
 

TooShyShy

Well-known member
what does it mean if you very innocently touch a guy on his knee while talking to him, telling a story...and he jumps :p i mean reeeeeeeally gets nervous...turns all red, looks down and away, etc! But yet when other people put there hand on his shoulder or brush by him, he acts like nothing happened doesn't even flinch.......
 
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Waybuloo

Well-known member
I'm the opposite too in that I have a tremendous longing to touch, hold, hug, especially with people I like, and special people in my life. I can't personally understand your dislike for touch in general, but I do not like being touched by strangers or people I don't particular like.
 

Waybuloo

Well-known member
what does it mean if you very innocently touch a guy on his knee while talking to him, telling a story...and he jumps :p i mean reeeeeeeally gets nervous...turns all red, looks down and away, etc! But yet when other people put there hand on his shoulder or brush by him, he acts like nothing happened doesn't even flinch.......

If i'm not mistaken touching a guy below the chest is a sign of you wanting something from him or showing an intention something a bit amorous lol. Especially on the leg, unless you are very intimately connected with him and you guys do that as an affectionate gesture. I'm assuming that you're a girl, in which case he's excited but nervous. If you're a guy then he's just nervous lol.
 
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