Sinar_Matahari

In the past, I have felt as though I was being ignored or as though some people here may dislike me. I don't have any proof of this and I chose not to dwell on it. I spent too much time worrying and being upset over people not liking me. I don't have the energy or desire to worry about it any longer.

"He dare not come in company for fear he should be misused, disgraced, overshoot himself in gesture or speech or be sick; he thinks every man observes him." Hippocrates

I have retained my Jedi powers!!!

Psychedelicious

I don't know. I wouldn't say I am completely ignored, but surely there is always going to be that feeling sometimes. I know it's unreasonable to think that someone is always going to respond to my posts or pay special attention. There's just too many for it to always be me. Half the time I don't even want people to pay attention to what I am saying. To be paid super special attention you usually have to give out a similar amount of attention to what you get. I do take forever to write my posts, but that's mostly just because I need time to THINK!

lunarla

When I first joined, I did feel like I was on the outs. But then the more I posted, the more integrated I felt. My posts don't get a lot of responses or anything, and especially threads that I start myself, ha. But that's not really an issue.

JamesSmith

I'm very opinionated and straightforward so a lot of what I say is me expressing what I think. I'm sure there are people on here that don't like me, but that will happen at any forum with the way that I express my views on things. I probably get less feedback and responses on my posts because people tend to disagree with a lot of things I say. Honestly, I don't really know why people disagree with me as much as they do. I get that people disagree with people who are opinionated, but it does seem like people like to object to the way I say things on here. It's not like it's that bad, I've had some good agreements with people too on certain subjects. And then of course there may be people that agree with what I say but don't want to post anything which is what I do sometimes too, so I understand that. But as far as popularity goes, this place is kind of similar for real-life for me. I'm not popular and not too well-liked. Some people like me, but I think many just don't agree with me and don't like my opinions, which makes me unpopular on here.

BlueDays

Spot on!
I find the older I get the more I realize this.
There are some benefits to getting older.lol

The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any. ~ Alice Walker.

Kiwong

I think that this is a really supportive and constructive forum compared to many others on the internet. The relative lack of flaming is a breath of fresh air.

I'm not too concerned about my popularity on here. It's been good to interact and see social anxiety from the perspective of others. It is also a good place to learn to open up and trust people more.

Happiness to me, is like a beautiful bird of paradise, elusive and rarely seen, but enjoyed ever more so for each brilliant and unexpected sighting.

But what we call our despair is often only the painful eagerness of unfed hope. George Elliot
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vj288

When I first joined I will say that was not the case, I felt as if I was given more attention than I expected actually, embraced with open arms. I only feel ignored when I'm expecting people to reply or acknowledge a post or thread.

In regards to popularity, given the nature of a site it seems to be an unfortunate side effect. For these active users who feel well received and liked among the community it is a good feeling that they may not get in real life, but to less active or new members who experience the same thing in real life may come here and see the same thing is happening and feel excluded for this reason. A sense of community is a good thing I think, but it is hard to have that without people feeling out of the community. Self-esteem and self-perception do play a role I think, but there is also a real-world aspect to it that may not be as strong as it is in High School for example but is still there. I don't think this is as prevalent on the serious threads as it is on the more "fun" ones, which often get criticized by those who don't like them, possibly for this reason, possibly just because it's something they aren't interested in and are frustrated on them clogging up the threads that serve a more direct purpose.

I'm a stranger to myself

Kat

It has crossed my mind but I do realize sp can make you have those assumptions and even if there was a grain a truth in it you can’t please everybody. I try to come to this place with an open mind and heart most have sa on here so I already can relate to more people on here than in real life and that’s mainly why I come here. I like the people on sp forums a lot more than other places I have been to.

uhmm_doh

Interesting poll, and interesting results too. I was expecting to see more of "getting ignored but don't post much"

Hmmm... it's not hard to figure out where I voted :)

panicsurvivor

I think on this site its all about what you put in. In real life it is like this to, but there are a lot more factors. With the exception of good looking people who post pictures of themselves, it is all about how much you put in on spw. Take Coyote for example. He is probably the most popular person on spw. If you check all of the Intro posts where someone introduces themselves he is on everyone of them. He tends to participate in all the silly threads, and try's to help on the serious ones. He also makes an effort to have a sense of humor and make others laugh. How many posts does he have? Like a million or so right? I never used the rep system, but I didn't really know about it. I don't understand and don't like when people on here get upset when others are friends and say positive things to each other. I wanted to start positive threads on people on here and was hoping others would do it. But was blocked because this broke a rule of favoritism. I wasn't upset that the mods removed the thread, but I was upset that people actually complained about my thread. I thought that this was very bitter and insecure. This is a support forum for people with anxiety issues. When people make friends on here it is a beautiful thing. For some people, the friends they make on here are their only friends. Most people on here that are what you would call "popular" on the site are very caring people who will go out of their way to try and help you. This is WHY they are popular in the first place. Another example is Feathers, to my knowlege there are no pictures of her on this site. But any time someone has a serious problem she will right a small novel trying to help you. Of course she is more popular than say.... Panicsurvivor who has only posted 300 or so times and doesn't get on here as often as he would like. Like I said you get what you put in. I really don't think anyone on here who is popular really cares about being popular anyway. I know my motivation on this site is mainly to try and help people. I have made friends along the way and I love all of them, but when I first came on I was determined to try to help as many people as I could as much as I could. I think that if I have any popularity at all it is because of that.

With your feet on the air,
and your head on the ground,
try this trick and spin it ,
but your head will collapse,
if there is nothing in it,
and you'll ask yourself,
Where is my mind?