Infected_Malignity
Well-known member
I didn't know what else to call the topic so this'll have to do.
Today, I've been coming up with reasons as to why I'm shy, in hopes of resolving the issue. I actually came up with enough to actually realize something - analyzing shyness is the fastest route to staying shy and being shy forever, or at least it seems. I just notice that the more I dwell upon the negativity I feel, consequently it equals feeling more negatively about my problem.
So what I've decided to do about all of this, is to just try to go the 'honest route'. I mean (and this could be true for your problem too, possibly), considering how bad I feel when I bottle myself up, I don't have a whole lot to lose in just letting my true self show. I think everyone has to grow up at some point, so here I am, 18 years old, hopefully ready to remove my mask I've been hiding behind.
And one more thing: the dose of reality. I know not everybody here wants to know this, but you're responsible for your own shyness, just as I am. It sucks to think about, but the more and more you point the finger at other people, the further and further you get from resolving this issue.
Thinking 'so and so' did 'this or that' to 'make us shy' is just absolute denial. Because in reality, I think every one of us should try our best to accept the fact(s) that:
1. Yes, our lives have probably been made shittier since becoming shy [or else you wouldn't be on this forum, reading this now]
2. Yes, we ARE to blame for the fact that we're shy
3. and finally, Yes. We can accept these facts in maturity and learn to become the people we want to be.
Somehow after reading this back, it definitely resonates with the way I feel, and gives me some sense of release. And I know what it's like to be painfully shy, believe me. I know I don't know a whole lot about this but from what I've read along with first hand experience, but shyness is striking me more and more as immaturity. Somehow accepting that fact has really helped my progress
Anyways, just thought I'd write it out for any other soul out there who feels the same way I do. And for everybody who's shy here: I salute you, soldier. march on
And above all - Good luck. Let me know what you think.
Today, I've been coming up with reasons as to why I'm shy, in hopes of resolving the issue. I actually came up with enough to actually realize something - analyzing shyness is the fastest route to staying shy and being shy forever, or at least it seems. I just notice that the more I dwell upon the negativity I feel, consequently it equals feeling more negatively about my problem.
So what I've decided to do about all of this, is to just try to go the 'honest route'. I mean (and this could be true for your problem too, possibly), considering how bad I feel when I bottle myself up, I don't have a whole lot to lose in just letting my true self show. I think everyone has to grow up at some point, so here I am, 18 years old, hopefully ready to remove my mask I've been hiding behind.
And one more thing: the dose of reality. I know not everybody here wants to know this, but you're responsible for your own shyness, just as I am. It sucks to think about, but the more and more you point the finger at other people, the further and further you get from resolving this issue.
Thinking 'so and so' did 'this or that' to 'make us shy' is just absolute denial. Because in reality, I think every one of us should try our best to accept the fact(s) that:
1. Yes, our lives have probably been made shittier since becoming shy [or else you wouldn't be on this forum, reading this now]
2. Yes, we ARE to blame for the fact that we're shy
3. and finally, Yes. We can accept these facts in maturity and learn to become the people we want to be.
Somehow after reading this back, it definitely resonates with the way I feel, and gives me some sense of release. And I know what it's like to be painfully shy, believe me. I know I don't know a whole lot about this but from what I've read along with first hand experience, but shyness is striking me more and more as immaturity. Somehow accepting that fact has really helped my progress
Anyways, just thought I'd write it out for any other soul out there who feels the same way I do. And for everybody who's shy here: I salute you, soldier. march on
And above all - Good luck. Let me know what you think.