Home is the only safe place for me, its getting this way

jenna · Newbie User Joined: Oct 10, 2006 Posts: 1

Hi I'm a 25 yr old girl who lives in Australia. I have the same problem that all you guys have been talking about.
I used to have it, along with anxiety and panic attacks, then i got over it, but now it has come back. It is awful. I have to get the train everyday and every day to city and back again i have to try so hard to relax. i'm ok if the train is moving, but then as soon as it stops (like between stations) i get this cold wave of panic and feel like i'm going to wee myself in front of everyone on the train. Then when i go out to lunch with a friend i always have to know where the nearest toilets are and if i realise there aren't any around i panice and feel like i'm going to wet myself. It's starting to happen everywhere. Like when i'm trying on clothes, or driving in a car. Like some of you mentioned, when i'm in control i'm fine, when i'm around my family and boyfriend i'm fine (i'm very lucky, my boyfriend is aware and very supportive) but anyone/anywhere else i lose it.
I hate the feeling i get. It's the worse feeling in the world and the panic is incredible. i just think god what would happen if i wet myself in public. I just want to not have to worry about something like this! everyone else in the world can do the simplest of things without worrying if they are going to need to go to the toilet.. why can't i? My message probably doesn't make sense, typing furiously trying to get it all out of my head onto the screen! if anyone has any solutions pls let me know!

alissashreddah · Posted: Mon Nov 06, 2006 4:37 am Post subject:

I dont leave my house cause mine is so bad. Im only 21 and that kind of hinders my social life. but I cant. I freak. I only leave sometimes to go to the stores and things but i cant even do that right now cause the crouds are so bad for holidays. it freaks me out.

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hayhay · Newbie User Joined: Nov 10, 2006 Posts: 2

I have this problem too and have never heard of anyone else who suffers like I do until now.

It hinders every aspect of my life and I constantly worry what people think about me going to the loo all the time.

When I'm at home and know I can go whenever I want i don't need to go, but as soon as a situation occurs where I know I might have to wait a while all I can think about is needing the loo. It's ridiculous because I know its all in my head but it doesn't stop it from feeling real, the mind can be very powerful. Often I will feel like i'm am absolutely busting, get to the loo and then not even need it, its so fustrating!

I avoid so many situations now because I find it so traumatic, I don't go to the cinema, theatre, on long drives etc. I am a member of an orchestra and often skip rehersals because they last and hour and a half and I'm scared that I will need the loo. Its now affecting my work in a supermarket. I sometimes work on the checkout and as soon as I sit down I start thinking about how trapped I am and that I can't leave to go to the loo, then within 5 mins I feel like i'm bursting. It's so embarassing, my boss probably thinks i'm crazy.

I feel like i'm trapped in a loop at the moment and I can't see a way out and it keeps getting worse. If anyone knows anything that may help please share with me! I feel like I need my brain re programmed or something!

It's a horrible problem that I can't share with people because not only does it sound ridiculous its also very embarssing!

FlirtyandDirty · Intermediate User Joined: Jan 31, 2006 Posts: 139

Found this in the BBC website.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/6128738.stm

joshueg · Posted: Wed Nov 22, 2006 11:02 am Post subject:

Hello, Sparky!!, yes, it happes exactly the same to me.
Even when a intend to make an excursion or if i am travelling, my stomach begins to ache me and i need to go to the loo, i think all that happens because it is not one' s home and the very thought of having to
go to the loo in a differente place or in a place where you are not feeling comfortable could be one of the reasons.
But i am totally certain that those symthoms you are talking about are psychological, not physical. You (or me), are not willing to go to the loo, but the fear of having to go to the loo in public or in some situations, makes you feel that.
That' s what i think.
See you- Wink

sickofbeinglonely · Newbie User Joined: Oct 31, 2005 Posts: 63

I still occasionally feel like this. I used to get it really bad in the past. I'd hate having to answer the door to someone. I'd have all kinds of thoughts about who they were and how they perceived me. Crying or Very sad

I'd act as though there was no one in and then I'd go upstairs and look out of the window onto the front. It was almost always either door to door salesmen or people with clipboards doing surveys!! Laughing

There was a time, eight years ago, when I was so in need of company that I briefly went through a phase of opening the door!! Laughing

I'd still much rather be at home than outside. It's horrible though when you feel a prisoner in your own home. Crying or Very sad

MH06 · Newbie User Joined: Jan 30, 2007 Posts: 21

This thread means alot to me. I have this feeling too. Only not going for a wee.

I am 15 years old nearly 16. Ive had this feeling for about 4 weeks, ever since the start of my gcse mock exams.

I need help any advice?

John1988 · Newbie User Joined: Apr 15, 2007 Posts: 1

I'm soooo glad ive found a place where i can discuss things like this with people.

I suffer from this " Toilet Phobia " , everywhere i go i get nervous and i will sort of hunt for where a toilet is with my mind just incase my stomach turns over and i need to rush to the loo.

It first started when i rushed down some breakfast , which consisted of crumpets covered in cheese.

2 mins after eating me , my sister, and my cousin were going to go shopping with my gran.

On the way there my stomach felt uneasy and when we were stuck in some traffic i started panicing and rather embarasingly asked my nan " To find a loo quick " when i got the the toilet in the shopping centre i remember feeling not too ill, but the panic was still stuck inside me and i spent four hours in that horrible shopping place.

I couldn't go home because my nan was in the town for a meeting on business, but when i got home i felt absolutely fine.

Its hard to explain it all without being 16 pages long, but life for me right now is all about whether i'm going to need the toilet or not,

Ive lost friends because i won't go " Clubbing " etc with them because i know that as soon as i get near the place i will need the toilet,

Exams were hell for me aswell, i took Kaolin and Morphine before exams to stop me from needing the toilet, and i would not eat or drink on the mornings before exams.

Rescue Remedy helped me through the exams a few times Smile

Ive recently realised that i might have irritible bowel syndrome, and by eating the correct foods my stomach feels alot better right now.

I'm going to book an appointment with the doctor this week to see what he suggests to me, to take away the panic attacks and major anxiety i get...

This all started for me when i was 14 or 15 and i'm now 19 and working, its realy realy hard for me because sometimes i have to go on a course to do with the work i do, and sometimes i have to drive a van somewhere.

This always makes me feel realy uneasy and sometimes i nearly have panic attacks, lately i'm considering quiting my job just because i want to sort out my phobia and stomach problems.

This post makes no sense whatsoever, but i would love someone with a similar problem to email me so we can talk on msn.

Please reply to this... thanks in advance.

John.

Lozz · Newbie User Joined: Apr 19, 2007 Posts: 5

I've been getting this since I was a child. All my friends take the mick out of me for needing the toilet all the time and panicking about it when ever we're in situations where I cant go. I never knew why I had it. i thought it was because I had diabetes, so I got checked out and it wasnt

now that I'm reading other people have this on this board and its all making sense to me now.

Other things have happened to me recently and I looked on the internet, and now I'm starting to realize I may have Agoraphobia, and have had it for the majority of my life.

Kellywellydoodle · Newbie User Joined: Jun 17, 2008 Posts: 1

I have such a bad phobia of needing the loo and it's a really restrictive fear to have. I'm 17 and I think this fear started when I was in year 9 because we'd driven all the way to Newcastle and I was busting for the loo but we were told there were no loos on that side of the airport...I was really desperate and there was a big queue to the desk. I had like a panic attack and they let me use the staff loos I think in the end...but ever since then I'm really scared of needing the loo. I went to a christian concert earlier in the year and I was stood in a crowd and I had to check where the loos were and make sure I could get out of the crowd to the loos if I wanted. It's getting worse because i actually choose not to do stuff in case I might need the loo...like i went to this activity place on sunday and there were high ropes but i didn't go on in case i went up there and needed the loo. It's such a horrible fear to have...how can you get over it?