Joined: Feb 18, 2007 Posts: 58 Location: England, Warks
Posted: Tue May 15, 2007 11:49 am Post subject:
I think there may have been a misunderstanding.
I don't think anyone was trying to lessen your problem lonely or anything.
A lot of people are quite angry at themselves because of their SP, including myself, so they could just be finding faults in others, if you see what I mean.
A lot of people on here probably want to lose their virginity, or at least be relaxed enough around someone to have sex. So I think it boils down to people being jeolous of you. I hope I'm not stepping on anyones toes, but this is how I see it. I just think the wrong words may have been said. It's difficult to understand someone without seeing their facial expression. For all you and I know they could have been crying when they wrote that.
I'm sorry but I haven't heard your story before. I hope you find someone though.
Joined: Jun 07, 2007 Posts: 38 Location: California
Posted: Thu Jun 07, 2007 1:37 am Post subject: 29 and counting...
Hi everyone, I'll be 30 in a few months and I've never even gone on a date. I keep falling in love, and it takes me a long time to work up the nerve to tell the woman how I feel, and every time it turns out she has a boyfriend already. (But it's not like she bothers reassuring me that she would be into me if she was single; that would help things a lot if a woman did.)
So it seems like everyone my age has been in at least one relationship. Never having been allowed into the world of romance, I feel like a second-class citizen, and it really hurts. I have been told a couple times that I am good-looking (my female shrink described me as "very handsome"), but that hasn't helped at all. The only explanations I've gotten so far: I haven't asked enough women out ("It's a numbers game")-- so geez! how many more rejections do I have to go through? and the other explanation (from my female shrink) is that I'm too nervous, and therefore don't come off as a Big Strong Alpha Male Provider of Security, which apparently is the only thing that can possibly turn women on.
It's a little nice to find some other people here who have similar problems, since romance seems to be abundant everywhere I look, except with me. Turn on the radio, there's usually a love song; watch a movie, it usually has a romance and at least one sex scene; go out in public, and there's usually Public Displays of Affection (or, as I call them, Ostentatious Displays of Exclusivity) all around.
I'm on anti-depressants, but I still often feel bleak and hopeless. (I'd never commit suicide, though; I'm scared of death.)
Joined: May 09, 2006 Posts: 14 Location: Los Angeles, CA
Posted: Sat Jun 16, 2007 12:54 pm Post subject:
I'm about to turn 21 and I only been out on a couple of dates, with one girl. It didn't work out and now I feel hopeless. I want to have a g/f but I can't just open up and start talking to girls. This sucks.
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I just think the wrong words may have been said. It's difficult to understand someone without seeing their facial expression. For all you and I know they could have been crying when they wrote that.
