I know exactly what you guys are going through. i blush over the stupidest things...just hearing my name is school can make me blush and i cant control it. I started getting it just this last year in school and i thought it was just shyness and kinda blew it off but then i started getting really panicky and blushing all the time, it is horrible i hate going to school more than ever now and meeting new people...I talked to my mom about it and she said im having panic/anxiety attacks...i think im going to the doctor soon...i just hope i can get rid of it and overcome my fear...because really im outgoing and i just dont feel like myself anymore because im afraid to say things that i would normally say because i might blush. it sucks!
the smallest things make me blush too, like if i go to get some paper from the front of the class and everyone is minding their own business and working, i still go bright red. this happened and my crush looked at me and i must have a looked soooo nervous it was extremely embarassing.
i hate school too and was planning on dropping out after year 11 just because of my blushing.
Joined: Jul 30, 2007 Posts: 208 Location: N.Ireland UK
Posted: Sat Aug 18, 2007 5:43 pm Post subject:
same here Yves ive over come the anxiety attacks or most of them but the blushing is reli still holding me back and makes me feel worse just wen i think it will get better if i cud overcome that it wud be GREAT!
It's just terrible how vulnerable we feel! A simple task sets us off and then we go downward. I was doing well at work for a while and then out of the blue it hits me. I'll realize that I'm finally not blushing, then I'll start blushing!
At work I was reading to our residents (I do activities with the elderly) and I was doing just fine. I took a different approach to my anxiety and it was all good. Then out of the blue last week it hit me. There were a few more people in the room than usual and also a family member was there. I was reading something and it felt like my eyeballs were going to pop out of my head and my heart was in my throat. It was so terrible. I felt like such an asshole after all of that turning bright red, knowing they all saw it.
hi guys!
recently i finally mustered courage to see a doc regarding the blushing problem. i got a referral to see a pyschiatrist, am waiting for my very first appt! felt a lot better as i feel that i have taken the first step to facing up to the problem.
to everyone who's suffering in silence; let's seek help.
when i saw the doc, i brought along the wikipedia printout on 'social anxiety' and it started the ball rolling easier. i started weeping cos i was feeling so sad abt the condition. doctor was taken aback and started offering tissue and asked whether im suffering from depression *lol*
the doc said this is the 1st time someone walked in and talked abt social blushing. can u imagine how nervous i was while waiting to see him!!
will post after my 1st appt. in the meantime, everyone whos suffering, lets try to get help instead of sitting and feeling depressed.
in the meantime, have made a trip to the library and is reading a self-guide on using CBT for social anxiety. i realli wan to pull myself out of this.
hi guys!
recently i finally mustered courage to see a doc regarding the blushing problem. i got a referral to see a pyschiatrist, am waiting for my very first appt! felt a lot better as i feel that i have taken the first step to facing up to the problem.
to everyone who's suffering in silence; let's seek help.
when i saw the doc, i brought along the wikipedia printout on 'social anxiety' and it started the ball rolling easier. i started weeping cos i was feeling so sad abt the condition. doctor was taken aback and started offering tissue and asked whether im suffering from depression *lol*
the doc said this is the 1st time someone walked in and talked abt social blushing. can u imagine how nervous i was while waiting to see him!!
will post after my 1st appt. in the meantime, everyone whos suffering, lets try to get help instead of sitting and feeling depressed.
in the meantime, have made a trip to the library and is reading a self-guide on using CBT for social anxiety. i realli wan to pull myself out of this.
good luck to everyone n myself
Nice tro hear someone's finally tackling the problem
cant wait to hear what happens.
yea...i know how you feel, but, i think you should seek help, talk to your school counsler or somethin...i never really noticed a problem with my blushing until after highschool...then i became depressed and just pissed off at everything, i hated shit, and i still do really....but i think you should talk to someone about it, cause you may feel better if you let out what you really think, and maybe you should talk to your doctor about medication as well, cause i went on "lexapro", and it kindof worked for me....i think the best thing to do is to just accept it, no matter how hard it is for you, and just try to be as open as possible to get better...because i was the same way, friends could try to talk to me and i blush...i still do sometimes...its retarded..but its what it is..i think in time we can get better....but i defenatly do hate it, i really dont have problems with talking to other people and shit like that, i just blush sometimes and it sucks...its bull shit really......
but i think you should talk to someone about it, it can probably make you feel better, ask your counsler if you can talk to him/her, maybe during lunch or after school or somethin, i dont know....i hope you start feeling better....
I'm 19 and blush whenever i feel that someone is looking at me or when even getting the slightest bit embarrassed. I hardly cared about it until a year ago when I heard someone say something along the lines of "Look at that guys face, its bright red", now whenever im in a social situation i can't stop thinking about it.
I can always feel it coming on (my face getting warmer) and that makes me even more embarrassed. Dosn't help when you have very pale skin. The blushing was one of the main factors that lead to me dropping of the course i was doing.
Its nice to discover that your not the only one that is going through this .
I want to cry reading your messages - I can so relate to the pain inside, that crushing feeling, when you feel like such an idiot and that hopeless feeling that there is nothing you can do about. Blushing is soooo difficult to deal with because we just can't hide it.
These things have helped me manage it (really) I still have setbacks but they are rare:
1. Accept that you blush. It's Ok to blush. In fact some people like it when you blush. Think to yourself - when you saw someone else blush did it make you like them any less. Of course not. In fact you were probably more connected to that person.
2. Exercise vigoursly every day - this definately helps.
3. Avoid caffine and other stimulating drinks (include alcohol)
4. Everytime you replay yourself blushing or think about blushing distract your mind with something else. Listen to music. Watch your favourite TV show. Read - just do something, anything to keep your mind off it
5. When you do find yourself blushing - try and focus on the moment. On what the other person is saying or doing. Practice focusing on anything other than the blushing - say who cares, so what if I blush.
6. Most importantly - while blushing SMILE - even if you fake a smile - smiling covers so much and makes us feel better.
7. When you can practice trying to blush on purpose. This works. If you try to make yourself blush you just can't do it.
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