NEVER HAD A GIRLFRIEND/BOYFRIEND

thesmallestloser · Newbie User Joined: Oct 07, 2006 Posts: 11

I'm 35 and ..... yep
Have had a couple of hookers & a lap dancer (not all at the same time!!). But it's probably not the same as having sex with your girlfriend, as it's all just for the money
Basically have given up on ever finding "romance", except in my head, and am kinda okay with that .. singleness, loneliness, isolation, rejection ... it's what i know, it's normal, like an old shoe with a big hole at the toe-end which lets water in when it rains, familiar, and annoying .. comfortably uncomfortable
I think im too ugly (mentally/physically - the complete package, like evil villains in cartoons, evil personality, & evil looks) for any woman to "love"
But i've pretty much turned myself against the "relationship" thing. I view a "relationship" as a shallow, insincere, frustrating, etc, etc, thing, even though i've had no experience of it myself .. its just what i believe

SocialRetahd · Expert User Joined: Dec 02, 2006 Posts: 762

You know theres guys out there that are 10's and don't have to be confident or interesting. NO WORK!!!!

Think about that next time you have moral guilt.

recluse · Posted: Sat Sep 01, 2007 6:43 pm Post subject:

Hi 26 year old man here. Never been in a relationship, a virgin but kissed a girl and held hands with another girl. I'm surprised and relieved that I am not the only soul that has this problem. I've actually been offered sex on a plate so to speak from a girl I met online, but I'm not a type of guy who uses girls. Besides it gross'd me out when she told me that she meets guys online and has sex with them, on a regular basis. What's happened to good old fashioned romance and morals?

Day_Tripper · Intermediate User Joined: Sep 02, 2007 Posts: 224

I've never had a girlfriend, for a few reasons. My shyness of course is one, another is, I'm sort of picky, I wish I could get attracted to a girl's inner beauty, that would make things a lot easier. Another is that I don't feel I have many opportunities since I don't see many kids outside of school.

winnipegjets · Posted: Tue Sep 04, 2007 6:01 pm Post subject:

Having social phobia, I didn't have a girlfriend until I was 19. I actually had sex before I had a girlfriend, but it was a one night stand (we were drunk), and I didn't know what to say to here the morning after.

PS...How do you see the poll results?

justnesh · Newbie User Joined: Sep 05, 2007 Posts: 16

Primrose · Newbie User Joined: Sep 14, 2007 Posts: 57

Wow at this forum. Really glad to know that I'm not alone.

I've never had a relationship; nothing even close. It does get quite upsetting when you are the only member of your entire extended family whose not married, engaged, or having children. I can hear the "maybe she's a lesbian" whispers a mile off!

I think I've reached the point now where I have to consider that it's not going to happen for me. When I was growing up I'd say, by the time I'm 16 I'll have a boyfriend, then it was 18, then 21, then 25, then 30 Embarassed

I don't understand why relationships come so easy to others, and yet are like another language to others. Sad

Thanks for listening and sorry for the heavy first post!

sunvic · Newbie User Joined: Sep 15, 2007 Posts: 5

I have voted the first option Boy who never has a g/f Crying or Very sad

I find myself in a precarious situation

polkaudioguy · Newbie User Joined: Oct 06, 2007 Posts: 1

Im a 19 year old male and have never had a girlfriend. I never kissed a girl till last year. Id never had a deep conversation with a girl until a few weeks ago, and it only came about because we were both drunk. I feel at this point that i will never have a relationship and will never get married. I dont know what is wrong with me (other than SA). Every time i see a girl im interested in, i have no idea how to act. Im always scared that i will say or do the wrong thing, so i do nothing (the wrong thing).

Middle school dances were the worst. There was always a special girl i wanted to dance with, but i couldnt overcome the fear of rejection or what others would think if i did. I went to two dances in high school. I never went to prom, although i forced myself to ask a girl each year.

The one girl i had a serious heart to heart with this year said i was a really sweet guy, that i didnt seem like a jerk like most guys seem to be. So i guess im not repulsive, i just cant get over my fears enough to even approach a girl and start a conversation.

I feel so lonely in this world. Two of my room mates have girlfriends. I just want a special girl i can share my thoughts and feelings with, my whole life with.

My birthday is coming up on nov. 1. I will be getting a new amplifier for my stereo, and will be bringing my car back to school. These are two of the three things that make me happy in this world, but i wont be truely happy. Nothing my parents can give me can make me truely happy. They cant give me a relationship.

Im glad to know im not alone with these feelings, yet i want so much to be able to overcome my fears, and become happy.