Did your parents teach you to stand up for yourself?

dottie

I never remember a single instance when my parents ever taught me to stand up for myself. I wondered about others here.

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SocialRetahd · Expert User Joined: Dec 02, 2006 Posts: 762

My dad taught me the reverse. Did you know that not standing up for yourself has a huge affect on gene expression? You could have looked different, or been a different height, had a different personality, all based on these events.

ooSOULCRYoo · Newbie User Joined: Oct 05, 2007 Posts: 55

socialRetahd is that true? Interesting~.From reading your posts, seems like you know a lot about altering ones looks.

SocialRetahd · Expert User Joined: Dec 02, 2006 Posts: 762

Not some much the looks part, but definitely the personality. It's done in protection of yourself.

Foxglove · Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 10:28 am Post subject:

Well, I can remember my parents calling me such lovely names as "chickenshit" and "milque toast" and "spineless" when I didn't stand up for myself. Once, a girl spit at me, and when I told my mother (I was maybe 7 or 8 at the time) she told me to go out and slap her face. I didn't want to, so my mother said she would slap my face if I didn't do it. A person needs self confidence and self esteem in order to stand up for themselves, and my parents did everything to rob me of those two things.

rado31 · Expert User Joined: Sep 15, 2006 Posts: 686

phoenix1 · Intermediate User Joined: Oct 27, 2006 Posts: 128

My parents always made me the one to blame, no matter what. If someone was being cruel to me or wronged me in some unfair way, my parents would always ask what I did wrong to make them do that to me. It was always my fault. I wish, just once, they could have told me to stand up and fight against a wrong. To help me fight against someone other than myself all the time.

Invisible_Alien · Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 10:34 pm Post subject:

My mother always yelled at me for not standing up for myself, so maybe that counts as a yes. My father never really did that I can remember. One time I ran inside after this one kid was harrassing me and my mother yelled at me so much until I cried for over an hour. Finally after that I accepted the challenge to a fight that the kid put on me. Also a lot of times when former friends picked on me my mother would act like it was all my fault and ask what I did wrong. She didn't belive me when I said they all liked to gang up on me (which I guess was my fault anyway).

SocialRetahd · Expert User Joined: Dec 02, 2006 Posts: 762

they are cowards. Even when I was severely depressed, they were too scared to send me to the hospital. My dad probably has social problems too and passed them on to me.

People with problems shouldn't have kids- my parents included.

kyle · Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 1:55 am Post subject:

SocialRetahd, you are the most entertaining poster on this forum. If you were to leave, the board would collapse. We owe you a great deal of gratitude.