That is they decide NOT TO TALK ABOUT THEM and never to SHARE THEM.
In our western societies this is typical behavior. We learn it by watching our fathers.
And some women learn to do it by copying mothers who can't be open and honest.
That is how I grew up. I never learned how to express my true feelings. Maybe thats y I feel so lonely. Even when Im mad, jealous, or sad I don't know how to show it. Maybe thats why ppl get the wrong impression of me. Outside Im cold and calm, but inside Im scared and anxious.
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Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 10:40 am Post subject: Re: understanding one's feelings
YankeeBob wrote:
the journey for some of us to
1) understand what our feeling is ,
and
2) why we are having that feeling
and then
3) what is the healthy thing to do with such a feeling.....
IS THE JOURNEY OF LIFE.
Some people "repress" their feelings.
That is they decide NOT TO TALK ABOUT THEM and never to SHARE THEM.
In our western societies this is typical behavior. We learn it by watching our fathers.
And some women learn to do it by copying mothers who can't be open and honest.
Does this make sense ?
yeah that sounds about right, my mum was never able to talk to me about emotions even though she was anxiouse too.
I hate her for it , she sees how unhappy i am and if i talk to her about it she just shuts off......thats why i have a huge wall around me and find it hard to let anyone in
Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 10:43 am Post subject: Re: Anyone else fed up and bored?
Pinker wrote:
blue wrote:
This is how I feel today
im sat here anxiouse again and im not even sure why things have been getting better lately and im still anxiouse!
Fed up bored anxiouse..........lonely
I feel exactly the same way.. every day.
I don't feel like that everyday... but right now, I do. You know what I've been doing today? There was a photoshoot in my classroom arranged (to take our photos because of our school-leaving ball). Wow, that was something. I was trying to take it easy, but it nearly had me breakig down. There I was, infront of my classmates, wearing my Pippi Longstocking T-shirt, wearing my careless hair-do and no make-up, sitting on a chair with that awfully nice stylist telling me where to look... and I felt just... well, I guess ugly is the word. And nervous is too mild an expression for how I acted. And then, there I am going home after school and my classmate's telling me casually: "My, you were guite stressed at the photoshoot, weren't you?" That was when I realized just how readable I am. No matter how self-confident or cool or friendly or merry I am trying to act, I still do come across as a nervous, self-conscious and confusingly anxious little me. My classmates proceeded to celebrate the day in a pub. I proceeded (with a smile and "see you, have fun, sorry, I've got to go" to everyone) home.
And so here I am, sitting in my room. I am alone so I don't feel anxious anymore. I just feel fed up and disabled. Bored with my disability to function. Unable to exist in the same universe as all the other people. Locked out.
Ah well. I am thankful for the opportunity to write it all out. Don't read it.
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things have been getting better lately and im still anxiouse!
