Big personality

den1 · Newbie User Joined: Dec 25, 2006 Posts: 88

Hi does any1 on here think maybe underneath all the anxiety they are in fact a really outgoing person with a big personality, but just don't have the confidence to go with it in social situations that results in you climbing into your shell?

I do think thats what my problem is, because when I am relaxed and in a good mood I can be quete loud and funny and the life and soul.

When I am anxious I cant even try to be myself because it just doesn't work, I am totaly not on form and if I even try to crack a joke it just doesn't work because I have no charm about me.

I need to get over this anxiety desperatly, I feel like the world wont accept me and Im scared of reaching an age where I wont have completed any of my goals due to this (what seems like) huge fucking mountain I keep on getting half way up then getting kicked back down.

I will get to the top one day screaming out with my hands to the sky.

sabbath92002 · Posted: Sun Aug 12, 2007 11:23 am Post subject: Big Time by Peter Gabriel

Hi There,

I'm on my way I'm making it, Huh!
I've got to make it show yeah, Hey!
So much larger than life
I'm gonna watch it growing
Hey hey hey heyyyyyyy

The place where I come from is a small town
They think so small, they use small words
But not me, I'm smarter than that,
I worked it out
I'll be stretching my mouth to let those big words come right out
I've had enough, I'm getting out
to the city, the big big city
I'll be a big noise with all the big boys, so much stuff I will own
And I will pray to a big god, as I kneel in the big church

Big Time, I'm on my way I'm making it, big time, oh yes
Big time, I've got to make it show yeah, big time
Big time, so much larger than life
Big time, I'm gonna watch it growing, big time
Ho ohh ohh, oh oh, ho ohh ohh, oh ohhh

My parties have all the big names and I greet them with the whitest smile
Tell them how my life is one big adventure and always they're amazed When I show them 'round my house to my bed
I had it made like a mountain rage with a snow white pillow for my big fat head
And my heaven will be a big heaven,
and I will walk through the front door

Big Time, I'm on my way i'm making it, big time, Huh!
Big time, I've got to make it show yeah, big time
Big time, so much larger than life
Big time, I'm gonna watch it growing, big time
Big time, my car is getting bigger Big time, my house is getting bigger
Big time, my eyes are getting bigger
and my mouuuth
Big time, my dinner's getting bigger
Big time, and my bank account
Big time, look at my circumstance
Big time, and the bulge in my big big big big big big big big big big big big big big big

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coriander1992 · Posted: Sun Aug 12, 2007 6:19 pm Post subject:

yup.
I used to be outgoing...like really outgoing.
I think underneath it all I still am. Confused

It kills me when people say I (or any other shy person) has no personality just because I am shy. How the f*ck do you know! you don't know me! t*ssers Twisted Evil

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coriander1992 · Posted: Sun Aug 12, 2007 6:21 pm Post subject: Re: Big personality

of_darkness · Posted: Sun Aug 12, 2007 10:08 pm Post subject:

It's all about my moods, sometimes i'm fine at least from my perspective.

I definately feel as if i'm trapped inside, I can usually think of things to say but 'the situation isn't right' or It just doesn't occur to me how easy a conversation could be with that person.

Those thoughts vanish when i'm in big groups, I totally struggle. Supose it's my big problem, I never see myself as being into the conversation enough to contribute, even if I was there when it started.

But with one person, I'm usually fine, I can laugh, joke, almost like a normal person,

4leafclover · Posted: Fri Aug 24, 2007 2:44 pm Post subject:

I am outgoing when, and only when, I've first had some alcohol.

Just wish there was a way to let my other side loose without any help of drink.

I always see myself as someone else, not the person that my sp makes me come across as, and then people think i'm different to how I really feel

Aeon · Newbie User Joined: May 11, 2007 Posts: 10

My moods are actualy keeping people from seeing that I have a problem. Sometimes I'm happy but when I'm sad they just think I have a bad day. Only the people who realy know me understand.

Doomed2Die · Posted: Mon Oct 22, 2007 1:58 pm Post subject:

I concure, I bet many suffers have a huge personality trapped inside. Myself I vastly enjoy any conversation with anyone and feel like trying everything at least once with a happy face... but then it is jaded by dark thoughts so really people dont see this much and tend to make up their own fake personality for me...

starz · Newbie User Joined: Oct 12, 2007 Posts: 5

Yes definately!

When I am with close friends I am one of the loudest,outspoken ones not the shy person I am with strangers.

It is more apparant when I go for a night out ,as when i first go to a restaurant or nightclub I am so quiet because of the amount of people around and then after a few glasses of wine I feel like everyone else and love chatting to people, its just a shame the effect usually wears off!

I get annoyed as I feel I am not being authentic, because the "me" I present to others on a daily basis is not who I feel I am inside if that makes sense!

stevelee24 · Newbie User Joined: Nov 04, 2007 Posts: 13