I personally like people, I enjoy social interactions as much as I enjoy being alone but my problem is that my introverted or shy nature takes over alot and controls my life to the point where I don't initiate contact, sometimes avoid people at work (even people I enjoy the company of!?) and feel anxious, nervous and lost for words around people. To really answer your question, I want relationships because I genuinely enjoy the company of others, for the stimulation but then as I said before sometimes my shy side manipulates my mind to "think" I only want friends when it pleases me, or that they don't like me any more.
I guess honestly I don't like people too much. I mean I'm always willing to give them another shot, but after a couple hours amongst the general public I'm reminded of precisely why I'm such an introvert. People can just be absolutely exhausting, and these days forming a connection with someone is much harder than it should be. And I'm not just talking about for us social phobics.
I love hanging out with people, forming friendships and such. But the thing about APD, SP, SA, and just general shyness is the fact that weather you like people or not, your problems tend to interfere with any kind of social life you've had.
I personally value just about everybody above me... lol. It might sound corny, but instead of seeing myself as an equal, I always tend to think of myself as a failure or something. I'm learning to see myself as just a regular, equal individual, but it's so hard. I still have friends and whatnot, but I really close myself off. Even though i know I'm not actually a failure, I can't help but see myself as one - so therefore I think other people see me the same way.
Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 12:38 am Post subject: Re: Do you like people?
InDeepshit wrote:
do you genuinely care about nuturing a relationship because you like people or do you just want friends when you might want to have fun when you feel like it?
I like people. From what I've read, people with AvPD like people. They want to socialize, but are inhibited by fears, such as of rejection, and misreading other people's intentions. If you don't like people, I think you fit in another category. For instance, antisocial people don't want to be with other people. I think a schizoid personality may also fit. Read up on it; I'm no authority.
I always want to like people but then I'm around them and find myself wondering what's to like? The social world isn't all it's cracked up to be, whether you want to be a part of it or not.
I always want to like people but then I'm around them and find myself wondering what's to like? The social world isn't all it's cracked up to be, whether you want to be a part of it or not.
I couldn't have said that better myself . And what always makes me wonder is the fact that most people seem to find themselves so marvelous and cute. I don't feel like I'm missing anything by avoiding the company of others. Animals make much better companions, in my opinion.
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Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 7:40 pm Post subject:
Foxglove wrote:
ljwwriter wrote:
I always want to like people but then I'm around them and find myself wondering what's to like? The social world isn't all it's cracked up to be, whether you want to be a part of it or not.
I couldn't have said that better myself . And what always makes me wonder is the fact that most people seem to find themselves so marvelous and cute. I don't feel like I'm missing anything by avoiding the company of others. Animals make much better companions, in my opinion.
Once you got to know a real human nature - you realize that you could like just few people. I m pretty much surprised that human specie invented something useful like wheel on axis ,for example.
I like all people who (try to) entertain all kids, they
seem like a real good people - completely out of these world messed
by human activities.
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. And what always makes me wonder is the fact that most people seem to find themselves so marvelous and cute. I don't feel like I'm missing anything by avoiding the company of others. Animals make much better companions, in my opinion.
