perplexed

paddo · Newbie User Joined: Nov 17, 2007 Posts: 5

Hi everybody i am new to this site...i reside in sydney...and i am not working due this illness and anxiety/dep as well as ocd..the main thing for me is the social side...just like most of us with this illness if i were to walk down the street..nobody would ever know...its so perplexing all this, relationships are problematic...to the extent that i am almost resigned to aloness...i find this the most difficult friends and good meaning friends say i am a nice person...even my therapist and psyc doctor give me that positive feedback...i thank them all and i dont dismiss it...its later on that i dont think that...the WHY rules and i manage to get through another day...feel free to answer or to understand what is going on in this just awful stage of my life....the funny thing is i like people i really do...its like a plate glass separates me from .......everything.....bizzare..all the best to all who read....paddo

sabbath92001 · Posted: Wed Nov 21, 2007 7:53 am Post subject:

Hi paddo, welcome to SPW!

Sadly we are our own worst enemies. Our minds tell us we are incompetent, but it's all lies. Once we realize that our minds are playing tricks on us, we can then ignore all the crap our minds feed us. The best thing I've tried for this is Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). With ACT I've learned to become an observer to my mind and body. There's an Australian website with some good articles on ACT at www.actmindfully.com.au check it out when you can.

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elle_jay · Newbie User Joined: Nov 10, 2007 Posts: 8

Hey! I'm from sydney myself! currently not working either, actually i havent worked for the past 2-3yrs! ahh that scares me!.and honestly wish i never stoped working, i quit everything and i let the anxiety completely take over, which just made it a million times harder to recover from it!. but hey im getting there slowly..

Ah yes i feel like im going to be alone for the rest of my life, i have like no friends, any people i do talk to live in different states.. which really sucks, i find it hard to meet people that i actually click with, that i feel comfortable opening up to. I just don't think most people would understand social anxiety if they didnt have it themselves, and a few of my old friends have completely turned away after knowing i went to a theropist.. apparently that makes you some kind of freak?. wateva.

Anyways welcome aboard!, I just read the ACT website sounds pretty good, I've done CBT which seems to have helped a little bit.. im getting better at just trying to not care wht other people think, and pay attention to what im doing and who im with not to everyone around me and what they may be thinkin of me..

Anyways best of luck with your recovery!.