''Look she's gone red!'' D:

Winter · Newbie User Joined: Apr 16, 2007 Posts: 41

It's bad enough when you know people can see that you're blushing, but when they decide to comment on it... it makes me feel 50x worse!

Like the other day when I was in general studies, I was feeling a bit better than usual generally about SA but then this girl goes to me 'hey where did you get your boots from I like them' and I was like 'thanks *=]*, they're from new look' I blushed a little but didn't think it was a noticable kinda blush so I was OK until she whispers to her friend (she must think im deaf or something Rolling Eyes

) 'look - jess has gone red' and her friend said something which I didn't quite hear. Then they start glancing over at me as my anxiety goes into hyperdrive and I go bright red. A little later the teacher asks me a question out of the blue and I go red again, so she turns to her friend again and goes 'look shes gone red again..'

Anyone else had people comment on you blushing? =/

maximo12 · Newbie User Joined: Nov 12, 2007 Posts: 12

In class my teacher randomly went through our homework and read mine out lous. A girl inmy class was like. 'oh, its hers!' I was so red I thought I'd die. Sad

NeverGiveUp · Newbie User Joined: Nov 26, 2007 Posts: 1

Hey, yea i know what your talking about 100% im 18 now and had this problem through 6th form (when it started), funny thing was i was one of the loudest peeps at my school before it.. and then it went bad, its hard to deal with because people dont understand how much it can get you down and really hold you back. when i was at school it got to the stage where i was so damn worried to go in because i knew if i sat thier quietly i would get a question fired at me which would make me blush and get laughed at or if i tried to be loud it would have the same affect.

I know work in a very large office and ofcourse its still hard sometimes, as you cant just click your fingers and it goes away (if only) but you have to remember that your not alone which is a nice and kinda reliefing feeling in some ways, ive never really tried anything to try and help im just to chicken to try, which doesnt help too much, ive seen that ETS surgery but the after affects dont look so wonderful and as for going to therapy that seems a good idea but then again i cant get time of work Sad

anyway just to point out that your not alone and thier is plenty of things you can try that the other people have posted about, well anyway im here if you need a chat Smile

Take care

sidney · Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2007 9:38 pm Post subject:

Yeah totally!! I feel overwhelmed when i know theres other people who know how hard it can be:cry:

Before i told one of my really good friends my problem and she read about it on the internet (which actually explained it well) all my friends use to point out me going red in class & it made it worse but now 2 ppl know and it helps Smile

but when people poke fun at it i just go purple, one time i really thought my face was gunna explode-it got so red my eyes watered Shocked

maximo12 · Newbie User Joined: Nov 12, 2007 Posts: 12

Ive felt like Ive been purple before. Not a good feeling at all, helplessness and all. I was blushing so bad a few weeks ago I could feel my face pulsing, I thought I'd pass out!! Confused

I dont even want to know what it looked like..

PhantomPod · Posted: Fri Nov 30, 2007 5:28 am Post subject:

It really adds to the horribleness when someone points out how red your face is (as if you didn't know!!). My own mom points it out sometimes and I really don't like when she does it. I was telling a story about my job interview to my family during Thanksgiving dinner, and my face was getting all red and my mom made a crack like, "I hope you didn't get that red during the interview!" I mean, I laughed it off and all and said that I didn't (which, surprisingly, I really didn't), but I still sort of felt like crap for a little bit afterwards.

Generical · Posted: Mon Dec 03, 2007 5:35 pm Post subject:

Yeah blushing sucks twas the start of everything for me, randomly started happening when i was 14ish, became too afraid to talk to my friends and family lol......was a hoot. Luckily people rarely mentioned it although you could tell they were thinking it, people would just stare at you and when your in a lesson you can't get away, just have to try and say something that will take the spotlight off you but thats impossible as your mind freezes. If someone asks you a question the only words you can say is 'i dunno' and then you'll turn away. To be honest you just have to sit through it for the moment and eventually you'll become comfortable with it, not give a shite and be able to relax more in social situations. The good thing is i rarely get it any more, am 19 now, (started growing outta it at 17, when sixth form started and i went out more) i basically accepted it, which is hard i know but once you stop thinking about it obsessively you can actually have a decent conversation, which further takes your mind off it.

Getting a job as a waitor or something that involves people helps a load too.

prettynpink · Newbie User Joined: Jan 03, 2008 Posts: 2

I've had many times where I get real red like that for no reason at all sometimes. Someone can just ask me a simple question and I'll go red. It's really a hinderance to my career and basically my whole life in general. I'll turn a little red, someone asks, "why are u so red?" and I swear I'll turn purple. Anyone have any good ideas on how to handle these situations? People just don't get it.

EveM · Posted: Sun Jan 06, 2008 3:28 pm Post subject: Re: I get like that too

alter_ego · Newbie User Joined: Apr 26, 2007 Posts: 89

I'm lucky enough not to actually blush but I do feel my face get hot when I feel embarrassed or uneasy with new people or in new situations. It's just one of the symptoms of the age old fight or flight reaction. So just tell a half truth. When anyone asks why you're blushing, just say you feel really warm and say the room's too hot. Hope that helps. Very Happy