Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 1:04 am Post subject: Blushing makes me feel soooooooo self conscious!
Blushing is one of the first things that started to make me feel soooooo self-conscious. Sometimes I'd rather die than have to endure the embarrassment.
It got so bad - I couldn't even face my own mother without blushing. It got worse and worse.
Over the last couple of years I've seen huge improvement! Yippee! It wasn't easy and it took me about 12 months to start getting it under control - I had to change some things, but it did help me heaps. Here a few pointers.
1. Every time you think about yourself blushing (replaying it into your head) say stop! So what if I blush. It doesn't make people like me any less. In fact alot of people find blushing attractive. I then try and stop thinking about it by doing something else.
2. Excerise. exercose it gets rid of the extra adreneline.
3. Reduce stimulating foods and drink
These are 3 tips that helped me ... there are more but you can't do it all at once!
1. Every time you think about yourself blushing (replaying it into your head) say stop! So what if I blush. It doesn't make people like me any less. In fact alot of people find blushing attractive. I then try and stop thinking about it by doing something else.
I never knew about this condition until I came to this forum. But yeah.. like you said, it won't make ppl dislike you. It's actually rea~lly cute when ppl blush. Im jealous.. When ppl blush, it makes them look jolly and healthy. One question though, when you blush does ur whole face turn pink or just ur cheeks and chin or where ever?
Joined: Jul 30, 2007 Posts: 208 Location: N.Ireland UK
Posted: Fri Oct 19, 2007 7:49 pm Post subject:
well my whole face goes betroot and i feel like its gunna explode then people will find it very UNattractive so they will then like me less it sucks i really hate it wen i blush stops me from doing lots of stuff
any other tips on blushing?
I blush a lot as well, but i wear makeup so noone can actually see it when it's happening. Although i still have to deal with the effects of it - heated up face and body, it still makes it a little easier knowing they can't see it.
I saw on this medical show the story of this woman who suffered from it and she got an operation to stop it. I don't know the precise mechanics of it only that the doctors clipped/cut something-?-under her armpits that stopped her from blushing.
Hun, what kind of make up do you use that covers it up so well??? I'd love to use it.
The blushing is the worse thing for me, too. To not be able to hide my feelings and everyone knowing how I feel. What do you think is more embarrassing, when other people who you blush in front of get uncomfortable from your reaction, or them teasing and making fun of you?
My therapy has helped me realize that having SA is not my fault. It's a neurological disease and I don't have it becuse I'm a bad person. Wellbutrin, Effexor, and Ativan has helped, too.
Joined: Nov 28, 2007 Posts: 7 Location: Vancouver, British Columbia
Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 3:10 am Post subject:
Wow, seems like a lot of people share this with me. I usually get it right after work my face goes beat red over nothing. I'm always warm, I'm in a t shirt while everyone is in jackets. I also try to cover it up by wearing shorts and a t-shirt on the coldest days, just to bring the redness down. my sister tells me to turn on the heat, but I just say I like it off.
I go for lunch with the boss and employees, and as soon as I order I go red and it wont go away, for no reason, i don't really feel embarrass or nevus to ask for a beer..
Like most other people have said, it's great to find out that I'm not alone with this thing.
I'm an 18 year old male now and I've always been a fairly shy person but I rather just keep to myself. And I started blushing really young, I remember just everyone talking and looking at me telling eachother how red I was going, and I start to sweat a lot when I blush and they start talking about that too - it's so hard (even though I know there's nothing to get so worked up about!)
I go red even with best friends 1 on 1 when I might suddenly think of something or say something stupid... It's so hard my good friends don't really care though and they know that I blush easy.. but they still talk about it if I'm talking to someone else and go red and they make jokes...
I'd love to try and get my voice out there but I just can't take it, and doing any sort of social talking just kills me even though i know it shouldnt
I always work myself up by trying not to care about it but deep down I'm always worried that I'll blush.
Posted: Tue Jan 01, 2008 8:29 pm Post subject: Re: Blushing
Chilling__Echo wrote:
Who all has problems with blushing?? i thought it was all SAers but after a while i relailzed it wasn't everyone... plus it's been a while since i'd seen a post about it on here. but that's my MAIN PROBLEM. all my fears go back to it...
matter of fact i can remember the first time i ever remember blushing, i was in elemetary school and i got a bf and he walked in the room one day and everyone started looking at me and teasing me and then everyone was telling my face was turning red... weird b/c i didn't start having problems with SA until about three years later.
I do. I try to control it but i can't and other ppl notice as well. They are like you are blushing and that gets me even hotter .
I know this problem exactly. I have it happen in any situation where I am nervous, anxious, angry, or embarrassed. it's very difficult. I turn red all over my neck and chest and my face too. My neck is the worst part because it gets all blotchy and extremely noticeable.
I know some of you have said "blushing is cute." Well, not mine. It looks like a damn rash. I find myself sitting in my car with the a/c blowing as cold as I gan get it to try and cool down and then as soon as I'm talking with someone or thinking about anything that gets me anticipating my next breakout... I get red again. It's a cycle.
I have become so afriad of it happening that it controls much of what i do and where I go. I find myself checking the mirror in my car before going inside of anywhere to make sure I'm not all blotchy.
Strangely enough it doesnt tend to happen when dealing socially with women in a bar setting or somewhere where it's not one on one. But if we're out to dinner alone and she is looking right at me and talking to me and asking questions....sometimes I turn red. I hate it. I wish there was some way to not worry about it.
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