ok, i have the same problem too. Ive come to realize over the awful years that people just dont seem to care. Ive gotten some really hot girls just because i blush. They think its cute ppphhhhh lol. You just cant care, dont fight blushing, and dont try to make it happen. Blow off your first thoughts about it. Some need help with this, go to www.hypnosisdownloads.com and then self-improvement, then blushing. I cant stress this enough in the other posts, the power of the unconcious mind is incredible. Just pay $9.00 and your problems will slowly fade away. It basically stabs blushing in the heart till all the blood is gone and theres none left to rush to your face. Just kidding, it makes your unconcious mind react to situations differently than you did before, making you more calm and relaxed.
Now, when i blush i either enjoy it, or dont even notice it. And when you have the mindset i have, you blush rarely, only when blushing is supposed to happen, if you trip, or if you fart really loud in class or something.
Posted: Tue Jan 22, 2008 11:55 am Post subject: Re: blushing and sexuality
tucker25 wrote:
hi
i used to have this problem,ir really cripled me socially.like most forms of sp it is based on a fear of being percieved negatively by another.for some reason in ur head u may thinh u are sexually inferior.with me it was late physical development and also i was shy around girls and was afraid people would think iwas gay.u should work on ur inner thoughts-challenge them-u have nothing to be embarrased about in ur sexuality-alss dont hide ur blushing like i did it feeds the fear and makes it worse.contact me for more advice if u want
Tucker25 I have to agree with you, I am 40 now but when I was younger I coudn't talk to girls and all my mates were getting girlfriends and I wasn't and I think people thought I was gay, which I found embarrasing.
But for some reason it has got even worse lately though, I work with a gay bloke and someone at work said something about the 2 of us being an item and I went bright, bright red. I told my wife and daughter about this when I got home from work and went red again, now I think that I have somehow got this into my mind about going red over this subject that if someone mentions gays around me or on the tv I go red as I think my wife is looking at me accusingly. I have not got anything against gay people but I have never had any gay feelings so I don't know why this is happening.
I can relate to this problem as well. I work in a company that has mainly women and whenever the subject of relationships is talked about (which is pretty much all the time ) my face goes red, I hate it. I think the problem is is that I'm hiding a dark secret that I don't want them to know and when they talk about relationships I have to pretend to know about this stuff and that I'm normal and I've had girlfriends-when I haven't, and I'm not exactley young. this sucks
the deep dark secret is that i've never been in a relationship, so when the topic of relationships comes up I have to make excuses/lie/bullshit. I had to do that other day when i was asked about my first girlfriend-i completely bull crapped about it, said i had one and such. Hell i'm not going to say that i've never had a girlfriend, even though the person who asked me is very understanding and we're friends. Sometimes its easier and less painful just to lie.
I feel its been getting worse over the years. Like you i sometimes blush when on the phone, sometimes when paying for stuff, if my boss talks to me or sits next to me, the list is endless. This is even holding me back in getting a better job (and other aspects of life). I've tried hypnotherapy for my confidence/blushing but that did bugger all. I can manage to get through the day but it really annoys me sometimes.
the deep dark secret is that i've never been in a relationship, so when the topic of relationships comes up I have to make excuses/lie/bullshit. I had to do that other day when i was asked about my first girlfriend-i completely bull crapped about it, said i had one and such. Hell i'm not going to say that i've never had a girlfriend, even though the person who asked me is very understanding and we're friends. Sometimes its easier and less painful just to lie.
I feel its been getting worse over the years. Like you i sometimes blush when on the phone, sometimes when paying for stuff, if my boss talks to me or sits next to me, the list is endless. This is even holding me back in getting a better job (and other aspects of life). I've tried hypnotherapy for my confidence/blushing but that did bugger all. I can manage to get through the day but it really annoys me sometimes.
Hi krs2snow. Thanks for the advice. Sorry to hear about your relationship problems, I hope things get better. You have made some good points. My head hurts now from thinking too much!!
I don't think I've ever really tried to delve into why i haven't had a relationship, maybe you can help. I think a lot of it for me comes down to a fear of humiliation, when I'm embarrassed or in a difficult position my face goes red and I hate it. I feel like I'm not like other people (inferiour, i guess). This has then led to me avoiding such situations, or try to get out of certain situations really fast- like approach women, asking for phone numbers etc. Even if I know someone likes me -it completely freaks me out (like if a girl is in a store looking at me, and I could tell she likes me) although this only happens once in a blue moon.
Maybe I do consciously choose not to have a relationship for various reasons. Its just explaining that to other people without them thinking I'm very strange (lets face it-its not normal). I don't want to lie, but if i tell the truth then i'm going to blush big time-my head might actually explode with this one ha, ha. I don't know, maybe its just a case of facing the fear and doing it and not be such a big wuss.
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) my face goes red, I hate it. I think the problem is is that I'm hiding a dark secret that I don't want them to know and when they talk about relationships I have to pretend to know about this stuff and that I'm normal and I've had girlfriends-when I haven't, and I'm not exactley young. this sucks
ha, ha. I don't know, maybe its just a case of facing the fear and doing it and not be such a big wuss.