I am 46 and to be honest i stopped using this forum a while ago because it was mostly younger people and i felt that i did not identify so much with them , its hard to talk to a 18 year old about your problems , why dont they have a section for over 40s ?
Joined: Nov 24, 2007 Posts: 55 Location: South Africa
Posted: Wed Jan 23, 2008 11:04 pm Post subject:
Our experiences are so similar that age does not matter. Who can tell age by faceless communication?
Btw, I am 42 years young, but stopped having b'days. Nice to know there are SPs around of similar age. What have we been doing to be all alone and battling at this age? Shoooo!
I am 46 and to be honest i stopped using this forum a while ago because it was mostly younger people and i felt that i did not identify so much with them , its hard to talk to a 18 year old about your problems , why dont they have a section for over 40s ?
Blade
I found that this forum helps alot. Check this out, theres a Over 30s section
Joined: Nov 24, 2007 Posts: 55 Location: South Africa
Posted: Sat Apr 26, 2008 10:10 pm Post subject:
Just out of interest. What career paths are the over 40s following?
I am a clerk. Prospects for promotion is zero. With no social skills there is no hope of ever holding a managerial post. Its hard and extremely traumatic. I am capable, but....
I hope to change my life for the better. I have started CBT and I am going to work hard, or should I say try?
Joined: Dec 07, 2006 Posts: 232 Location: 44/m/miami
Posted: Mon Apr 28, 2008 8:48 pm Post subject:
BreakingFree wrote:
Just out of interest. What career paths are the over 40s following?
I am a clerk. Prospects for promotion is zero. With no social skills there is no hope of ever holding a managerial post. Its hard and extremely traumatic. I am capable, but....
I hope to change my life for the better. I have started CBT and I am going to work hard, or should I say try?
Good luck with the CBT. When I tried it, it made me worse. Instead, I found acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), and it's made all the difference. The main difference is CBT wants you to change your thoughts but ACT wants you to just notice them.
By the way, I'm a computer programmer. I was going to study engineering but social anxiety disorder sidetracked my studies and career. Now I'm trying to update my skills for the internet age, and hoping to get back on track to world domination
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You guys should have your own forum, but I would also encourage you to share your experiences, specially in what have you tried for your SA, what did work and what didn't, what jobs are good for people like us, etc.
I've been attending some SA groups, and I've seen the progress of teenagers helped by senior members, that otherwise would have been in a very bad shape in the next 10 years. All of this with no cost, better than psychotherapy.
I know you want to get better, but also you would feel better by helping others.
I am forty and its been one hell of a journey. I just learned to cope as best I could and got through it all with little or no support other than counselling and medication. I really only identified my problem as SA about 5years ago and that was a big step forward for me. A forum for us oldies would be good, because we face some different issues.
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