Posted: Sat Feb 16, 2008 2:08 pm Post subject: MY MOM IS GOING TO HIT ME HELP ME!!!
I am only 16 years old and a senior in HS and i am the only one in the house that doesn't work. Because of that my mom always tells me oh you are the only one that doesn't work, you have to do everything in the house. My sister is 20 and she also leaves a mess in the room but my mother because my sister works wants me to clean after her. I don't want to clean because i never get everything and her and my dad are always talking about me. My mother said that she is going to throw me out of a window and i swear if she touches me again i am going to leave. I am tired of all the verbal abuse that i get in this house, i don't have a personality, friends, can't communicate with people well, don't have a social life, dress crappy because although they have money they don't care. One time she hit me because i didn't want to turn off the computer and shes really getting on my last nerves. She said all i do is stay on the computer, well thats because i have nothing else to do, the internet is my friend since i don't go out. I HATE MY MOTHER AND FATHER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Fuk them for bringing me into this world. I told her why do i have to do everything when she sends her family members money,clothing and food when theydon't do anything for her.
Posted: Sat Feb 16, 2008 2:25 pm Post subject: Re: MY MOM IS GOING TO HIT ME HELP ME!!!
Depressed4life wrote:
I am only 16 years old and a senior in HS and i am the only one in the house that doesn't work. Because of that my mom always tells me oh you are the only one that doesn't work, you have to do everything in the house. My sister is 20 and she also leaves a mess in the room but my mother because my sister works wants me to clean after her. I don't want to clean because i never get everything and her and my dad are always talking about me. My mother said that she is going to throw me out of a window and i swear if she touches me again i am going to leave. I am tired of all the verbal abuse that i get in this house, i don't have a personality, friends, can't communicate with people well, don't have a social life, dress crappy because although they have money they don't care. One time she hit me because i didn't want to turn off the computer and shes really getting on my last nerves. She said all i do is stay on the computer, well thats because i have nothing else to do, the internet is my friend since i don't go out. I HATE MY MOTHER AND FATHER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Fuk them for bringing me into this world. I told her why do i have to do everything when she sends her family members money,clothing and food when theydon't do anything for her.
It sounds like you ended up with strict, self esteem crushing parents like me. If she keeps pressing you stand up for yourself. The way to really win is to just walk away.
It sounds as though she is baiting you in a way. Some people shouldn't have had kids. My mother is one of them lol. She was a control freak.
If you have a friend or somewhere you can move to it sounds as though you would benefit moving out because your homelife is just killing your confidence and belief in yourself.
Thats the bad part, i do have a few friends but i just don't like telling them whats going out in my house. I just want to run away to the streets and starve myself to death.
Leave your parents a note explaining how you feel, and leave. Go stay anywhere you can, I'm sure a friend's parents would understand. Your parents will be dealt with by social services and they will get whats comin' to them, don't worry bout that.
Damn yeah s/times you just want to hit them, but hell there your parent's so you really can't. Or then again you could but I'm just saying that I wouldn't, I know about the control crap though, my mom is such a control freak not only does she still try to control me at 26 yrs old but she tries to control every damn man she's had in her life too. But then again she will never see that. Even when I try to yell back it doesn't work, so probably write down your feelings and just leave, the verbal abuse your taking isn't helping you out at all, I would know. Trust me I don't do anything anymore but sit at home and take care of my son, and try to get a job so I can get the hell out. But just stay positive and hopefully everything works out for you...
Posted: Fri Feb 22, 2008 4:46 am Post subject: ...
I wish i had a positive look in life but to be totally honest i don't. I don't expect to ever get myself a job, to ever have a future and kids. My bf and i are having problems right now, and it drains me completely. Anyways, i just feel dead and i use the computer 24/7. The last time i saw the daylight was friday when i went to school but i don't have school this week and i haven't been downstairs ever since. I just feel so tired and empty inside that even walking is hard for me. I just don't expect anything i don't look forward to the future. I mean i don't believe that i will have one, i already wasted 16 years, i am not outgoing, i can't speak to ppl, i feel unhappy, i feel obese, ugly, stupid and dumb and what makes me think i will be happy one day? NOTHING. TO me yes iam living but life is over for me, i breath but in the inside, mentally and spiritually iam a nobody, i am a robot without emotions, without anything. I am a loser who doenst have any friends and no one cares.
Leave your parents a note explaining how you feel, and leave. Go stay anywhere you can, I'm sure a friend's parents would understand. Your parents will be dealt with by social services and they will get whats comin' to them, don't worry bout that.
Peace
This is a good idea, it would be a wake up call for them, and they might try to make things better.
There are programs you can get involved where you can live by yourself at your age. I was going to do this when my Mom moved a different province but i just sucked it up and moved after, of course this is in Canada so I'm not sure about the states. My Mom is a social worker and deals with this kind of stuff all the time. If you want i can ask her for some advice for you. Maybe get a link to some kind of website or something. Try looking at it from there side as well though, in a way they are trying to help you (tough love) but i guess they're taking it to far. In a couple years you can do what you want, and after living like this for most your life you'll be to handle a lot more in life, thats the good side.
Let me know if you want me to ask for advice....good luck.
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Posted: Fri Feb 22, 2008 9:48 am Post subject:
Your parents sound exactly like mine, when I didn't have a job, my mum used to make me sit and do typing tests all day, from 7am until 5pm, and if I wasn't doing that, I would have to clean the house from top to bottom...my sister works part time, so she's home, but the rules are different for her, she doesn't have to lift a finger....and forget my father, he's so drunk most of the time, he doesn't know what day it is....the only thing i can say is, if your parents are anything like mine, don't say anything back to them, they thrive on it, I think, if you ignore it, they can't keep ranting....its at least until you are able to leave......
Besides defending yourself, you'll usually get told "I'm sick of your bad moods, what is wrong with you" blah blah blah.....think of when you'll be free...thats what I do
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Calm down and start applying for jobs. It will get your mother off your back, get you out of the house, and provide you with oppotunity to make friends. Seriously, that is the solutiion. Just do it.
Thanks for all the replies. I can't get out of the house, i just can't do it. I havent been outside in like 6 days or more and is just feels good that i am not getting anxious. I feel too tired, and even walking is hard for me. I hate going outside and seeing other humans, god how i hate people. I have so much tention on my mind and body. I wonder why the fuk am i into this world? WHY!!! I wish my stupid mom had aborted me instead, how i hate her.
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