Online crush

Emma · Posted: Sun Jan 13, 2008 4:46 am Post subject:

You never know if they secretly dating other people, or if you're just a fill in until something better comes along....thats just my opinion

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alex29 · Intermediate User Joined: Dec 15, 2007 Posts: 192

Hamster_Girl · Newbie User Joined: Dec 21, 2007 Posts: 3

doooont!!!

there are creeps on the internet, man!

dont you watch dateline nbc?

seriously though

alex29 · Intermediate User Joined: Dec 15, 2007 Posts: 192

there are creeps off the internet too. he knows my name/address, ive known him for years. if he wanted to hurt me he would have by now.

again this is really not the issue im asking for advice on

Danfalc22 · Newbie User Joined: Nov 17, 2007 Posts: 47

slowmotiondaydream · Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 2:02 am Post subject:

lovely thread.

i myself is actually in one.. it'll be 2yrs soon and its meant to be, i disregard all thoughts that it might be someone else behind the pc because ive actually seen them .. spoken to them, whats left is to be with them physically.

cards were placed on the table and feelings were shown, turns out it was mutual.

break a leg mate, you wont regret it.
sp, sa and all the other things are forgotten once something beautiful happens like this, online or in person

johnyboy · Newbie User Joined: Jan 16, 2008 Posts: 45

scissorhands · Newbie User Joined: Oct 05, 2007 Posts: 94

Hey, I have Social Anxiety Disorder and met someone long distance online like this as well. I also feared the same things you do about meeting her in person for the first time. That was six years ago and I live with her now and everythings great. Try not to worry about it too much. He knows who you are inside without the anxiety so it'll come out when you meet him, and if not it will eventually and since you already told him your problem he'll likely understand and be patient with you.

Best of luck to you Smile

alex29 · Intermediate User Joined: Dec 15, 2007 Posts: 192

scissorhands · Newbie User Joined: Oct 05, 2007 Posts: 94

I never told my girlfriend about SA so she never knew how severe it was. I never even really told her I was shy at all. I didn't want to tell her, hoping that by the time I met her in person in her city I could have overcome SAD. And meeting her in her city did help, cause I wasn't worried about running into people I know, or anyone from my small town seeing me. The city was so huge compared to my hometown and there were SO many people that it was almost like not having people around. Cause with that many people, that many crowds, and people so busy, who really cares what one guy on the sidewalk is doing, you know?
Anyway I'm going off on a tangent. I knew that we both liked each other enough that something like SAD wouldn't get in the way and I'm sure if he likes you it will not change how he feels about you. And really I think guys are more accepting of dating a girl who is very shy, more than a girl is of dating a shy guy, it just isn't masculine... So if this exact scenerio worked out for me I'm sure it will for you. How far apart do you two live?