posting this here as well...

herringman1 · Newbie User Joined: Sep 03, 2007 Posts: 31

I was 21 when i first married , we had a boy. a year later we split and i have had no contact with either since.I was in the Air Force at the time and after 5 years i gave up a great career because i couldn't cope with it any longer. I hitchhiked around the country for a few years not knowing where i was going. My second marriage took place when i was 26 and lasted 3 years..We had a boy and i haven't seen either one since..I finally contacted him through facebook but he wants nothing to do with me. My 3rd marriage was 15 years ago..she is a special person and we are still together..either she dosen't know or don't care but surely she must have noticed..she had 2 boys who live on their own now but i never had a close relation with them..I also have a daughter from another relationship. She lives about a mile from me and is 26 years old..i only see her when she drops my grandson off..she has a better relationship with my wife than me..i can live with that....The curse remains...Tks

aldebe · Newbie User Joined: Mar 18, 2006 Posts: 64

Hey big man, you a lot better then many of us, what else you want? Already married 3 times??? Smile

I have a girlfriend but can't marry her just because i will blush in the wedding and i can't stand visits because as a couple you need visit other couples, picnics, life etc.. I can't

Beyond that, you don't blush? How did you survive those weddings? Just curious...

herringman1 · Newbie User Joined: Sep 03, 2007 Posts: 31

Yes of Course i blush ,like yourself..even when someone askes me a question..I work on a tug boat now with a crew of 3.We have 2 tugs here ,so 6 of us in all. Just an hour ago the other crew comes for a visit and a chat..I turned bright red a dozen times..i have to sit with them or they think somethings wrong...sometimes i think they do it on purpose..my brain takes a shit kicking..lets face it..who has seen a 60 year old man blush...they must have a laugh when they leave...as for the weddings well i drank a bottle of rum each time...it helps but you make an idiot of yourself...the inlaw visits i do not do so they all hate me an think im not very friendly....What does your girlfriend think of your blushing????

krs2snow · Advanced User Joined: Jan 25, 2008 Posts: 322

Hi again Herringman1. I think a flushing face shows a sensitive soul. I struggle with it daily and it makes me angry because I don't want to look embarrassed when I am not! But maybe we should just stop fighting it! It's the hardest thing to do because, at least for me, flushing is accompanied with extreme discomfort. However, sometimes calling attention to it helps it go away. Like saying "Hey, I know I'm blushing over here but"...and then go onto a new topic. I've tried using humor too, once in a while, when I am feeling more brave. For example, someone said to me "Oh my God! Your so red!" (Gee, really??!!) and I said "Hey, my dad was a tomato- so I'm red, what can I say" It's a really stupid reply but it got a chuckle and took some of the attention/pressure off me. No matter the age 10, 25, 34, 68 it just shows you are very self-aware and sensitive to the world and environment around you.

I know this doesn't really help or change things but... well, that's what I would think of you if I were sitting across from you at your work or something like that.

herringman1 · Newbie User Joined: Sep 03, 2007 Posts: 31

hi Snow...I think head on is the best way to handel it...If u go red so what..I finally e-mailed my oldest brother and told him everything..i have 3 brothers and 2 sisters...It was 4 days ago and i havent herd back..they probaly all going...holy shit lol...oh well its done now..no turning back..Since meeting u all in here..im felling better about this curse...i'm going to try and meet the bastard head on...got to clear that head...i can picture myself in old folks home with my walker and still blushing...lol

nikole · Newbie User Joined: Feb 19, 2008 Posts: 11

hi guys ummm well i am 20 and i feel really nervous writing this.......i have just been reading about how you all are dealing with blushing...which personally i think is a nice way of saying it because i think of it more as going extremely red

and i do very often i get really red over things i am not even embarressed by and feel like i am looked at like i am stupid because ppl who i am talking to notice and cant understand why i am reacting like that

the thing is i have noticed you have said take your mind off it while it is happeneing but it just seems impossible i cant control it and i often feel like crying and running away in that situation and to make it worse i dwell on it for days, weeks afterwards

i mean i still have specific memories from being younger and blushing and when i think of them from time to time it makes me blush again

i just wanted to ask coz i love my friends and fammily but they are all really outgoing ppl and nothing much phases them
so i am finding when i go out i tend to drink a lot and its gotten to the point were i rely on it, if i am invited somewere i am always them most drunk there
and have to deal with it the next day.......i feel like and idiot and i dont ever want to see anyone again

does anyone else ever do that or feel that way???