Anyone Successfully conquered blushing??

sidney · Posted: Thu Dec 27, 2007 1:29 pm Post subject:

Yeah i'd like to talk on a one to one basis, do you have MSN??

Lissa1990 · Newbie User Joined: Dec 26, 2007 Posts: 7

Yup sure

Butterflies · Intermediate User Joined: Oct 10, 2007 Posts: 137

I would rate blushing as the hardest thing for me to conquer! I find it comes in massive waves and rushes - just when I think I'm overcomming it - it comes back to me like a hurricane.

... and that's just it - it's my thoughts - when I think about it I feed it. I can manage bushing by understanding that it really doesn't matter if I do blush. When I do blush or think about blushing I tell myself SO WHAT - who cares if I blush.

If we fight it just gets stronger. Just accept your blushing for now - it's ok to blush - no one will like you any less if you blush. Once you accept it - everytime you think about it just say - it's ok and distract your mind - do something else engaging so you don't focus on it.

It takes practice and is not easy but it does work with persistence. Don't expect a quick fix (although I'll admit I've never tried drugs). You can do it - start with your self talk.

bill-uk · Posted: Fri Dec 28, 2007 1:53 am Post subject:

I usually inhabit the HH board but saw this post.

20 years ago, aged 27 I used to blush when I talked to certain people, when i had interviews or when I gave presentations. Someone told me, allow yourself to be nervous, expect it, allow yourself to go red because most audiences expect the speaker to be nervous.

I tried it at an interview and instead of fighting it, I allowed myself to get nervous and go red. Very quickly I regained my composure and ever since it has not been a major problem for me. Now I actually enjoy presenting to other people. I occasionally get nervous but go with it rather than fight it. And as you would expect, the more you do it, the easier it gets ......

karmen · Newbie User Joined: Jul 05, 2006 Posts: 32

Hello, I havennt posted in over a year, but yea i would like to say I have recovered from my blushing anxiety. Yes, it crosses my mind before I go to social events or present a project, but I'm not worried to the extent I was. I got help from my doctor and a conunsellor. What really helped me thrugh the toughest times, was just accepting that my face was red and there was nothing I could do about it. I was in Grade 8 when it strted and I am now in grade 11. I dont have the confidence I had prior to my blushing breakdown, but I'm regaining it. Its easier said than done, but its something you need to sperate from the rest of your life, accpet its something you might always have, and it sucks. But go on with your life. I know I am young and I thought I would never get married or have a good life, but things have turned around for me.

nikole · Newbie User Joined: Feb 19, 2008 Posts: 11

hey i am new to this site and am finding very helpful.........i came across this topic and have to say i suffer from sa but and even tho i knew other ppl had it i thought i was the only one in the world with a really bad blushing problem

it happens all the time sometimes i can control it and other times i cant..........i find it easier when ppl dont make direct contact with my eyes.....

i also find that a lot of guys i go for are really outgoing and same with my friendships so its hard for them to understand when i do blush eaisily

has anybody tried to explain to other ppl why it happens to you?????......coz i am finding it really difficult

simon89 · Newbie User Joined: Feb 19, 2008 Posts: 18

I stopped blushing when i was perscribed 225mg of venlafaxine (an antidepressant) but it made my hands shake too much so now i only take 150mg and don't blush much..

ThatGuy · Newbie User Joined: Feb 13, 2008 Posts: 28