Any other guys scared of sex?

spectator · Posted: Mon Feb 25, 2008 11:31 pm Post subject: Any other guys scared of sex?

Is anyone else terrified of sex- feeling inadequate, like we will mess up horribly in some sort? Premature ejaculation, or not succeeding in giving her an orgasm, or too small a penis size, or not good enough body structure, or getting an STD/not being safe, or someone walking in on it?

Argamemnon · Expert User Joined: Jan 15, 2008 Posts: 515

I don't have a partner, but if I did, I know I would have problems as well. If you have social anxiety it obviously affects all aspects of life..

Danfalc22 · Newbie User Joined: Nov 17, 2007 Posts: 47

I think most people are if they havnt had much previous experience.. or with someone they dont trust or feel safe with.Maybe not to the extent your speaking about,but thats social anxiety,depression ect Sad

it magnifies everything and we over think about them.I think we feel its harder for us guys (im not saying it is before i get flamed!)aswell because for whatever reason we generaly feel like its us who have to make the moves peform ect

I was really scared about my first time Embarassed

but it aint as scary as you thinkits gonna be....you know this might sound really cheesy and that,but if you find the right person none of those things will matter,and even if you feel like you dont know how to please her sorta thing... with a nice girl youve built trust up wid you wll be able to learn together.

RedRibbons · Posted: Tue Feb 26, 2008 12:42 am Post subject:

Spec.. Women are more understanding than you think.

Women don't care about the size of a penis, as long as it does the job (meaning it's not like.. inverted! or SUPER small)

The average male penis size, when erect is between 5 and 6 inches.

If a woman wants a gigantic penis, she must have a gigantic vagina. lol.

A large number of women don't reach orgasm through intercourse alone, meaning there is other stimulation, she can do it, but if the guy knows how to do the job, then he can, which is even better!

When you are with a girl, ask her how it feels, if she likes it, what she wants you to do, how to do what she likes. The key to nice sex is communication, to understand each others desires.

If you feel insecure, let her take control. Usually, a woman being on top gives her the most control over how it's feeling, for her.

Women generally don't care about body structure, as long as you are in decent shape. You don't need to have a six pack, or bulging biceps.. triceps, whatever.

Premature ejaculation happens to a fair number of men. And women don't feel upset when it does happen. It just means, take a break, and then do it again. And I would think that the second time round, you would last longer before coming to climax, since you've already gone once.

"There is not much statistics on this available, but one American study indicates that 29% of all men have problems with premature ejaculation."

"Men who have a premature ejaculation come within a few seconds. Medically, premature ejaculation is defined when a man comes within one minute and often within 30 seconds of every love play. Some men come before penetration."

Now, someone walking in... If it happens, it happens. The best bet, if you don't want to be caught, is to do it late at night, or when no one else is home, or put a lock on your door.

STD's can be prevented if you use protection, and you are in a monogamous relationship, and both you and your partner are tested prior to engaging in intercourse.

IcarusUnderWater · Advanced User Joined: Dec 24, 2007 Posts: 303

Depressed4life · Posted: Tue Feb 26, 2008 1:39 am Post subject: ..

I am...i am a female. I think like is going to hurt enough to kill me.

slimjim119 · Posted: Tue Feb 26, 2008 1:43 am Post subject:

I don't think I would say that I am scared of sex. I would say social anxiety might make me feel more pressure of satisfying her and having a premature ejaculation. If you meet the right girl, all that would pass with time.

krs2snow · Intermediate User Joined: Jan 25, 2008 Posts: 238

Hi Spectator, I think your instincts will kick in and you will know exactly what to do when the time comes. Besides, she will be just as nervous as you are!

Kien · Posted: Tue Feb 26, 2008 12:48 pm Post subject:

I would just feel stupid in any sex act. I can't picture myself with a woman, I was never ment to have any love in my life. There is nothing in me that would make a woman like me (no there is no "someone for everyone"). Luckely I don't suffer much from it.

About pre-juc, heh I'm quite sure I would have serious problems with it. Hehe I think I can remeber that I dreamed once that I was about to squeeze a tit, but I woke up before I even reached it, with a wet spot...

I'm 20 if anyone wants to know and I have never had any girl. I dont want any. I want to loose the ability to feel attraction.

Danfalc22 · Newbie User Joined: Nov 17, 2007 Posts: 47