Being bullied, even after it hasn't happened, has made me have a low self esteem, and made me almost constantly depressed, and has made me automatically assume the worst possible thing from whatever anyone says to me...
Thats not to say i havn't had a profit from being bullied, but its certainly not along the lines of less stress.
"Bullying is not good, all it shows is that this world is one dark, vicious place."
I learnt that from being bullied... and i think thats a double edged prophet.. i've learnt some wisdom, and i've learnt to have more empathy, and im some aspects be a better person because of it... i dont think it was worth it though. id rather be ignorant... i feel bullying has pulled he wool away from my eyes, and now i can see the world and life for what it really is
Its true, about trust issues. But i am willing to admit that those are useful as well as horribly depressing. There are times people have turned against me, or just terminated friendship, and i've been far less hurt han when i was regularly bullied, because of trust issues, paranoia, and having a sharper eye for the more human traits people hold (greed, arrogance, ego, jealousy, selfishness etcetera).
I don't think having major trust issues is entirely unjustified. Unless, your willing to trust people who are only out for themselves, and are only friends with others for their own emotional convenience. Of course if you weren't bullied you might not let that thought cross your mind, and you'd either be stuck in friendships that are just based on selfishness on both sides, but ignornantly or happy, or you'd be able to notice it. I'm not really sure which is better.
I do know though, I am who I am, and being bullied shaped me quite a bit. It can be a significant part of ones life. You could say i've cowered, but wheres the line between cowering and looking out for yourself?
I've got some friends nowadays who are good people. And thats because trust issues make me damn picky, and when i find someone i truly want as a friend, i do everything make it happen. I seamlessly combine negativity and living in a dream, isn't it great?
Don't get me wrong, i hate the people who bullied me, i am intimidated by people i can't predict the actions of, and people stronger than me. But has a protective animal instinct. And we are animals. And it makes me a tougher person to have those instincts.
I could never honestly say people should be bullied (its fair enough because im speaking about myself).. i guess i'm just trying to say if we all just call ourselves victims... then thats all we will ever be... and then they've won.
People get their come uppance somehow anyway. I don't mean through some cosmic justice.. cowards who got away with bullying will one day run into people who can do it to them... and even the biggest guy in the playground, or the boss in the office, will be hated if they're a bully.
And if that doesn't happen, and they are really carefree and stuff, they'll probably die younger.
i have been bullied loads off time but i ignored it and then it whent away now i am in high school and this lass only whent and hit me the other day i was like i havent done nowt to you and my mam had to come and pick me up and go to the deputy head and sort it out
i think bullying can ruin ur entire life, especially done at a young age. To those who think it can make u strong .. well i guess there r 2 kinds of ppl.. some who prefer to fight, some who just submit. unfortunately at that tender age, many submit & they tend to be bullied forever n life becomes miserable.
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