Joined: Apr 23, 2005 Posts: 982 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: Thu Mar 13, 2008 2:18 pm Post subject:
Emma wrote:
Looks don't matter to me, everyone gets old saggy and gross eventually...those supposedly "good looking people" will be wrinkled and saggy eventually..besides what if you married someone for looks and they got their face torn off by wild dogs, would you go and find a replacement??
Thats one intresting way of looking at it But to the op.Yes you will find a guy who will like you... for who you are,if you look hard enough (or maybe ya wont have look just wait cos these things have a habit of finding us sometimes ) Im not going to lie and say looks dont mean anything... because they do to me and probaly alot of guys... its the first thing which initialy attracts you sometimes.I have a saying tho... you can have personality without looks but you cant have looks without personality.
Some of the prettiest girls ive talked to ive found them utterly repulsive because there horrible people... ugly on the inside for whatever reason.But on the other hand.. ive met girls in the past who havnt been my type at all in the looks department and at first i wouldnt of considered them as gf material because i just wasnt attracted.But as i got to know them... (this is gonna sound kinda cheesy but its true) i kinda fell for there personality and they became attractive to me in every way.
Physical attraction is important, but it should never be the sole reason we're with someone.
There is something inherently ugly about people who are shallow. Everything in their life revolves around aesthetics. It's pretty sad really.
You see those same people cheating on their partners or drifting from one wrong relationship to the next because they are more interested in how their partners appearance makes them look and feel.
Sometimes a friend (who you never thought of as your type) can become the most beautiful person in the world when something about who they are and what they are, just flicks a switch in you.
I agree with danfalc "you can have personality without looks but you cant have looks without personality."
That pretty much sums it up.
I've gone out with a couple of lookers that were about as uninteresting as a door knob and my desire to be with them wanes consierably after about 3days so there you go
Joined: Jul 30, 2007 Posts: 179 Location: TORONTO, CA
Posted: Thu Jul 17, 2008 12:12 am Post subject:
Emma wrote:
Looks don't matter to me, everyone gets old saggy and gross eventually...those supposedly "good looking people" will be wrinkled and saggy eventually..besides what if you married someone for looks and they got their face torn off by wild dogs, would you go and find a replacement??
Joined: Oct 13, 2007 Posts: 435 Location: 20-f-u.s.
Posted: Thu Jul 24, 2008 2:40 pm Post subject:
Kien wrote:
I can't imagine it's possible to feel attraction from anything else than the outside.
I have to say that I agree... Well sorta anyways. How can you be attracted to somebodys personality if you've never talked to them? Im usually too shy to talk to people... so a lot of the crushes ive had have been from a physical attraction.
But no matter how someone looks on the outside, I care ALOT more how people are on the inside.
I can't imagine it's possible to feel attraction from anything else than the outside.
I feel much more attracted to a kind and caring girl than a beautiful or "sexy" one who lacks these traits.
Last summer I went all nutty over a girl at work and I didn't even like her personality.
Well, there you have it! Most guys are pretty superficial and are influenced too much by appearances. What good does it to go out with a gorgeous woman if she is really stupid, or a complete bitch? Women, on the other hand, at least women with at least half a brain, don't let themselves be mislead so much by a handsome face. For me, at least, looks are secondary. A guy has to be smart and have a sense of humor.
No, men care about both. Women care about neither. They don't care about looks or personality. They are just looking for "confident" men (colloquially known among men as "asswipes"). They don't care about same interests or things you'd look for in a friend you just have to be an asshole and pussy's guaranteed. Men, on the other hand, are less shallow, as although they may care about looks a bit more, they also care about a nice personality, and look for the same qualities in a girlfriend as in a regular close friend.
And also, it's a generalisation that women don't care about looks, they do, probably just as much as men. It's just less emphasised because men as a gender are inherently uglier, and because "personality" is apparently more important. Yeah, right...
In response to the topic starter, 99% of "ugly" women really shouldn't worry, as pretty much any woman can be transformed into HOTNESS by just putting on a bit of makeup, losing some weight, dressing nicely and acting feminine. So don't worry, you're probably fine. It's a lot likelier that you just have a bad self-image due to low self-esteem.
Women care about neither. They don't care about looks or personality. They are just looking for "confident" men (colloquially known among men as "asswipes"). They don't care about same interests or things you'd look for in a friend you just have to be an asshole and pussy's guaranteed.
I'm a girl and I don't give a fuck if a guy is confident or not. I want nothing to do with the asswipes and assholes.
You only want to be with a guy who loves you for who you are. The guys who would get with you based on superficial looks will eventually lose interest and move onto other girls.
Also, I believe people look most beautiful when they're full of joy, warmth, and kindness inside. That stuff really shines through to the outside. And so I agree with the poster who said that you will become attractive once you love yourself.
Joined: Jun 02, 2008 Posts: 281 Location: Australia
Posted: Mon Jul 28, 2008 11:05 am Post subject:
InDeepshit wrote:
Accept and love yourself, then when you do that you'll become more attractive to everyone around you. Looking for acceptance through others will not make you happy.
I think thats what all of us with SP need to do
I know I do
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But to the op.Yes you will find a guy who will like you... for who you are,if you look hard enough (or maybe ya wont have look just wait cos these things have a habit of finding us sometimes 
) Im not going to lie and say looks dont mean anything... because they do to me and probaly alot of guys... its the first thing which initialy attracts you sometimes.I have a saying tho... you can have personality without looks but you cant have looks without personality.
