Joined: Mar 09, 2008 Posts: 53 Location: Ottawa, Canada
Posted: Sat Mar 22, 2008 5:40 pm Post subject: Girls
Ok this is really bothering me today. I can't get close to people but especially girls. If a girl does try and get close to me I'll push her away.
I usually hang out with my 2 cousins who are a year younger than me and they're always asking when I'm going to get a girl friend, why don't I have one yet, or saying you must be gay. I don't know how to answer them anymore. One of them always has a girl friend but he's always looking for another girl and doing shit behind their backs. The other one is controlled by her and can't do anything without telling her first.
I want to know what the hell is wrong with me, I want a girl friend but I can't get one. My biggest fear is living my whole life alone
Posted: Sun Mar 23, 2008 5:02 pm Post subject: Re: Girls
Tab wrote:
Day_Tripper wrote:
Tab wrote:
I want to know what the hell is wrong with me, I want a girl friend but I can't get one. My biggest fear is living my whole life alone
Well is it that they don't seem to like you, or that you push them away?
I push them away, I don't know why. someone on here has got to know what I mean I can't explain it any better
I push them away too. I just get to a stage where they are hinting that they want a relationship but then i just talk myself out of it. Im sort of scared that i won't fulfill their expectations because around them i play it cool but i think they will discover the real me and be disappointed. I don't know how to step up.
Joined: Mar 24, 2008 Posts: 14 Location: Across the Universe
Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 8:07 am Post subject:
I'm a girl, but I somewhat know what you mean...Do you feel like you're not worthy of their attention? Like they deserve someone better? I have it imprinted in my mind that I'm not good enough. That I'm just a shy girl who will never have a boyfriend. When guys talk to me, I blow them off, and without meaning to, I make myself seem bitchy.
Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 8:54 am Post subject: Re: Girls
Tab wrote:
I push them away, I don't know why. someone on here has got to know what I mean I can't explain it any better
I'm a female and I do the same thing with guys. I feel pretty good without having a boyfriend though. But when a guy tells me that he likes me, he'll rarely hear from me anymore. My one friend keeps saying that he would love to marry me but honestly I can't see myself getting married.
Maybe when you meet the right girl, things will turn around for you.
all I have to say is there's too many similarities in this forum. and I push girls away, have been called gay, and now most of the time they just don't seem to like me anymore Once they know my personality. because personality is made of ice. that cold.
I just hate having to do things like everyone else, or being told to etc. just leave me alone, that's all I ask these days to myself.
Joined: Aug 17, 2007 Posts: 811 Location: Wales, UK
Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 10:32 am Post subject: Re: Girls
Tab wrote:
Ok this is really bothering me today. I can't get close to people but especially girls. If a girl does try and get close to me I'll push her away.
I usually hang out with my 2 cousins who are a year younger than me and they're always asking when I'm going to get a girl friend, why don't I have one yet, or saying you must be gay. I don't know how to answer them anymore. One of them always has a girl friend but he's always looking for another girl and doing shit behind their backs. The other one is controlled by her and can't do anything without telling her first.
I want to know what the hell is wrong with me, I want a girl friend but I can't get one. My biggest fear is living my whole life alone
I'm 26 and never been in a relationship, but i'm looking at the positive because i have met an online friend abroad this Easter, and we get on great. What i'm saying is, just treat the girl like a friend rather than a potential girlfriend and who knows maybe the friendship will develop into something more.
Joined: Mar 25, 2008 Posts: 21 Location: Ohio, USA
Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 2:41 am Post subject:
LUMINOUS wrote:
most of the time they just don't seem to like me anymore Once they know my personality. because personality is made of ice. that cold.
I don't think you are truly cold on the inside. You just don't know how to react or what to say, and maybe you don't want to end up hurting them or being hurt yourself, so you clam up and appear to be cold. But I'm sure you're not! If you're hurting on the inside because you want a relationship then you are a feeling person with a heart. If a girl shows interest again, watch her for a while interact with others and see if she is the type you would like to be with. Then you can take things further if that is your wish. If you think she likes you, but hasn't said it yet, try talking to her and see if she responds to your personality. Don't push them away (unless they are freaks haha)! Perhaps when you are ready you will have that special relationship.
I can deff relate man. I've pushed away one of the hottest girls in my high school. When i realized what I did(because i actually did like her) i actually just gathered up all i could and made a move but it was to late, she had a date with one of my best friends. I still beat my self up over it.
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If a girl shows interest again, watch her for a while interact with others and see if she is the type you would like to be with. Then you can take things further if that is your wish. If you think she likes you, but hasn't said it yet, try talking to her and see if she responds to your personality. Don't push them away (unless they are freaks haha)! Perhaps when you are ready you will have that special relationship.
