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Jonesey · Newbie User Joined: Mar 23, 2008 Posts: 7 Location: NC

Hi, I was just wondering if anyone else experienced this. Throughout highschool, I had a very small group of friends that I hung out with and I pretty much didn't even talk to anyone else. It was very strange because around my friends, I felt like I could just be myself, but out in public, I would just completely retreat back into myself because I couldn't allow myself to feel like I cared what anyone else thought about me. Even stranger, I've seemed to accomplish the exact same thing in college, a few close friends and I shut everyone else out. I find it weird that I do this and was just wondering if anyone else had the same experience.

lil_ladii85 · Newbie User Joined: Mar 21, 2008 Posts: 28

im actually the exact same way, i have a small group of friends that i can be my real self around, but as soon as i get out in public or around ppl i dont know im completly different, i'm quite and wont say more than a few words, but u gotta be careful with how it comes out, because most of the time people think im stuck up or a b****.

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creep_x · Newbie User Joined: Mar 10, 2008 Posts: 88

yeah i have experienced that, i have been in groups in which i am more open than in public but i have also been in groups in which i feel more reserved

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zeroday · Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 12:05 am Post subject:

its the same with me in elementary school/high school and it carried over to university. i'd much rather have a few close friends than a big group of not-so-close friends.

Luna · Newbie User Joined: Mar 16, 2008 Posts: 17

I'd be happy even to have a small group of friends...I don't even have that.

Have lived in this new city for over six months and not once have I had a new friend come over to my apt or really had an invitation to go out. It's lonely as hell, but I'm not the person to call people and see what's going on. I feel more comfortable retreating into my shell and staying inside on weekends.

If you have a good group of friends (or even one good friend), I consider that a blessing, but I know where you are coming from when wanting more friends and acquaintances

hartbrokenvirgo · Newbie User Joined: Sep 04, 2007 Posts: 19

same here.once i have a group of friends thats it form e. i dont talk to anyone else or try to make any new friends. meanwhile all of my friends have so many other people that they know and talk to.

Ky · Posted: Sat Mar 29, 2008 5:12 am Post subject:

Yes...that's exactly my problem. I have a nice sized group of friends who I've been with since elementary school, or the beginning of high school. But, now I have a problem because some of them are starting to be not so nice anymore...some are doing things they shouldn't be doing which I don't like so much. They're going to parties, with their other friends (THAT sucks!) and know I'd never go. It really does suck. One of my best friends has been introducing me to some of her other friends, which is nice of her Smile

_Brittany_ · Newbie User Joined: Apr 01, 2008 Posts: 78

yupp! i'm the same exact way..

tired88 · Newbie User Joined: May 28, 2008 Posts: 2

I was like that too. Except I went from having a small group of friends with which I was comfortable, to one friend at the end of high school, to no friends at university.

I find it extremely hard to communicate with people unless I can be assured they will react positively to what I have to say. This limits my 'comfort zone' to people I know very well.

silentangel · Posted: Thu May 29, 2008 8:58 am Post subject:

yeah me too. i prefer coupla good solid friends who really understands me than alota acquintances that i most probably wont even speak 5 words with. i have the habit to observe people very carefully before i scrape together the courage and start to engage in a conversation with them.

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