do you often speak before you think?

Pinker

I'm guilty of doing this a lot. Sometimes I just blurt things out straight away without thinking for a second. Surely a sign of anxiety?

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Infected_Malignity · Advanced User Joined: Oct 17, 2007 Posts: 337

that's awesome! that's probably a sign of growth, doing shit or saying shit without worrying about the outcome.

i'll trade with you. i have the opposite problem... i debate on weather or weather not to say what it is i feel for the fear of being shot down.

PhantomPod · Posted: Sat Mar 29, 2008 12:45 am Post subject:

Nope. I think wayyy too much before I speak. Like if I want to say something in class I will sit there thinking if it's a stupid thing to say or not and then the teacher or another student will say my thought and I'll be sitting there like, "dammit! I should have just said it!"

dottie · Intermediate User Joined: Sep 06, 2007 Posts: 277

yeah. i always spew out the most generic, cliche one or two-word comments instantaneously out of anxiety that the other person doesn't value me enough to waste their time on waiting for my thoughts to collect into something valuable and coherent.

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Ky · Posted: Sat Mar 29, 2008 1:46 am Post subject:

Usually I don't say much, but when I do I end up offending people. That might be the problem actually. I know I'll end up accidently hurting someone's feelings, so I don't say anything at all. Rolling Eyes

recluse · Posted: Sat Mar 29, 2008 4:41 pm Post subject:

No, i think too much before i speak, because i am afraid of saying the wrong things.

IceLad

No, I'm the opposite to you Pinker. I tend to quickly run it through my head before speaking, particularily if it's something like an opinion.

Zettie · Newbie User Joined: Mar 31, 2008 Posts: 14

At home I tend to blurt out things before I think. But when I'm around people I don't know, I think about what I'm going to say so that I don't say something stupid. Usually I'm so absorbed in what I am going to say that I don't really pay attention to what the other person is saying. Therefore, the conversation is lost. Confused

Leki · Posted: Tue Apr 01, 2008 12:53 am Post subject:

I wish i could speak before i think! I wish i could do something before i thought about it. I am the most unsponataneous person ever, i analyse everything over and over.

geeked · Newbie User Joined: Mar 28, 2008 Posts: 7

I'd have to say that it depends on the situation.

In class, when I don't have to say anything, I'm just like PhantomPod. I always get ticked because I know the answer but can't say it.

In situations where I could contribute to the conversation, I can't because instead of completely listening to what the other person is saying, I try to think about what I should be saying in response (so I only gets parts of what they're saying).

But if I'm required to give an answer on the spot, I usually don't think about it first. Alas, I then spend the rest of the day feeling like I said something stupid and that I should have said something else...