Abused by a lover or partner

hopelesslove · Newbie User Joined: Mar 31, 2008 Posts: 2

Hi my name is lindsey and ill be 18 on the 18th of april i am currently being abused by my boyfriend. im not allowed to talk to anyone or look at anyone without his permission. i cant leave without his permission im pretty much a prisioner of his little game. i need advice. for the record ive only been hit 4 times since we have been together. im his property and if a guy even looks at me he is pissed and cussing me. WHAT DID I DO TO DESERVE THIS? when ever my mom comes over i have to act in a specific way so she doesnt suspect something wrong but she is starting to come around and im trying to tell her but cant. please help

Argamemnon · Expert User Joined: Jan 15, 2008 Posts: 633

I'm sorry to hear that. Leave him immediately...

Generic · Posted: Mon Mar 31, 2008 6:55 pm Post subject:

Harsh that's just not right, definitely leave him and tell your parents about it...how old is he btw?...you got any brothers? i know if that we're happening to my sister or something we would probs all visit the guy.

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miss_amy · Intermediate User Joined: Nov 21, 2007 Posts: 251

Leave him right now. I can tell you from experience that it only gets worse.
There's nothing wrong with you, it's him. No one has the right to hit you. 4 times is 4 times too many. You also describe the controlling behaviour that is so typical and that too gets worse.

I kept thinking it will get better and staying but it doesn't then 3 broken ribs, a broken foot and a smashed cheek bone I was still kidding myself it wouldn't happen again.

PLEASE leave and don't allow any one to treat you like that.

lifes_to_long · Intermediate User Joined: Jun 29, 2006 Posts: 192

hopeless love thats a really sad story.......come and live with me.

TAMPA-BAY · Posted: Tue Apr 01, 2008 7:58 am Post subject: get out

Listen to the previous post. I hate to bring up OJ Simson but its a good example of how those relationship go. I bet he charmed your hear when you first met him. Just look at what happened relationships like OJ and Nichole. They dont usualy end up good.

Also if you dont spread the word he will find another victim. He must be exposed.

Also I hope you dont take this the wrong way. What made you join a site like this? If you dont mind me asking.

Emma · Posted: Tue Apr 01, 2008 8:47 am Post subject:

Please leave him!!!!!
I was in your exact situation, and I know personally it won't get better, if he loved you he wouldn't do it.
If you think that being with him is better than being alone (like I did Embarassed

) its not.
Don't let him treat you like that Crying or Very sad

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Gone · Newbie User Joined: Apr 01, 2008 Posts: 91

You really have to put some distance between him and yourself, take refuge with a friend or family member that can protect you from him. Few things pisses me off more then guys like that, his only goal in life is finding victims he considers weak that he can controll, don't let him run your life!