Dead friends

Cool_Un_Cool · Newbie User Joined: Mar 20, 2008 Posts: 97

I have lost two friends in the last two years, one went in the hospital in 2005 and died in 2006, from alchaholism. The other died last summer, from overdosing on morphene patches, he was really young.
I remember that I had a dream about the first one a while back, he told me that; "Everything is Okay, and not to worry."
This dream really disturbed me, has anyone else had these kind of dreams?

Quetzalcoatl · Posted: Tue Apr 08, 2008 5:53 am Post subject:

Yes I have as well. I lost a very close friend in 06 from heroin, and since then I have had dreams with him in them, some so real that I woke up with the intention of calling him and telling him about it.

Numerous mutual friends of ours have shared their dreams of him with me, which included an ex girlfriend of his. They broke up a while before he dies, and did so on pretty bad terms. She would have a re-occuring dream about him, and it was always about them reconciling their differences and saying goodbye. She was really torn up over it. I suggested that perhaps the dream was an example of how our subconscious carries out wish fufillment through a dream in which the action is taken to satisfy. The idea of a dream as wish fufillment was proposed by sigmund freud in "The interpretation of dreams" which was published around 1918 or so.

When I think of your circumstance though, It reminds me of a theory I had read about dreams which equates your friends in a dream to being a representation of a part of you that has been influenced by that person. What I am saying is that YOU know that he doesn't want you to hurt, and that notion is expressing itself through the subconscious. Every person is different in the way that their symbol - making processes and that their subconscious mind operates in a completely unique way which is impossible to categorize, quantify and define, however, I felt inclined to do my best to shed some light on the subject.

I hope you feel better about your friends' passing, I know that it is so deeply painful to suffer such an intimate loss. I wish you the best of luck in your healing, and that you can find solace and closure.

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