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PostPosted: Sun Feb 17, 2008 4:02 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

1000 miles seperating us, and we go to different colleges. Sad in the future we may move in with each other but thats long term thinking being as I havent even met him yet! and I havent old him just how strongly I feel, tho i think he knows it

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PostPosted: Wed Apr 02, 2008 10:37 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

God I fell in love with some girl over the net last year. Took quite some time before I realized it, and when I did... so much angst.


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PostPosted: Fri Apr 04, 2008 11:55 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Kien wrote:
God I fell in love with some girl over the net last year. Took quite some time before I realized it, and when I did... so much angst.


how do you know you're in love?

i think about him all the time, picture myself with him, want to hug and kiss him but still cant convince myself im definitely in love with him Sad

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PostPosted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 1:51 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I think it's just a subjective thing. Most people misuse it and exaggerate it, anyway.

Recently developed an online crush. I have no idea what she even looks like, what her age is, or where she lives, but she's definitely the wittiest girl I have ever talked to. Embarassed Nothing is going to come of it, though Confused

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alex29
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PostPosted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 4:12 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

bleach wrote:
I think it's just a subjective thing. Most people misuse it and exaggerate it, anyway.

Recently developed an online crush. I have no idea what she even looks like, what her age is, or where she lives, but she's definitely the wittiest girl I have ever talked to. Embarassed Nothing is going to come of it, though Confused


see thats the thing. i think people misuse it and exaggerate it too, so im cautious to use the word myself! i only want to use it if i really mean it, otherwise i feel that i will lead him to believe something that isnt true

how did you meet her?

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PostPosted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 2:34 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

alex29 wrote:
Kien wrote:
God I fell in love with some girl over the net last year. Took quite some time before I realized it, and when I did... so much angst.


how do you know you're in love?

i think about him all the time, picture myself with him, want to hug and kiss him but still cant convince myself im definitely in love with him Sad

Then you will never be convinced about it. (-,-) I had talked a bit to the girl and when she said that she had to go and I was to start playing a game I realized that I didn't find the game very fun becouse I felt that I would so much rather continue talking to her and I was still thinking about her. (>,<)


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PostPosted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 2:12 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

i think im in lvoe with him but i just overthink everything...i worry that maybe i am more in love with the idea of being in love than i am with him, that im just looking for someone to care about me, etc etc.

i keep telling myself that when i meet him ill know for sure!

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PostPosted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 2:20 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

alex29 wrote:
i think im in lvoe with him but i just overthink everything...i worry that maybe i am more in love with the idea of being in love than i am with him, that im just looking for someone to care about me, etc etc.

i keep telling myself that when i meet him ill know for sure!



I think there's a big possibility that you're in love with the idea of love.

I had a similar online relationship, and when I finally met her and spent a week with her, it was great! Best week of my life.
However, after I went home, we both realized that we didn't actually know each other as well as we thought, and that the distance would keep us from ever knowing if it was meant to be. She realized this before I did, and broke up with me over the phone. (d'oh).

I guess what I'm trying to say is, if someone seems too good to be true, they probably are. Or your lonely mind is making them.

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PostPosted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 3:25 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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Hey, I have Social Anxiety Disorder and met someone long distance online like this as well. I also feared the same things you do about meeting her in person for the first time. That was six years ago and I live with her now and everythings great. Try not to worry about it too much. He knows who you are inside without the anxiety so it'll come out when you meet him, and if not it will eventually and since you already told him your problem he'll likely understand and be patient with you.

Best of luck to you Smile


Its great to hear this.
I've met my boyfriend online too and it works out better in so many ways except the whole distance thing which can be agonizing.
I really couldn't ever do it the normal way though, just 'dating' a stranger.
It's terrifying meeting for the first time and so weird only just meeting someone you feel like you've known forever.

I must be tired thats so corny...

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