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Kien
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PostPosted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 5:41 pm    Post subject: Why is love, relationship and intimacy seen as so obvious? Reply with quote

I don't understand this why everyone gets all wtf when they hear a person tell that he has never been in any relationship? >:/ I don't see this as obvious. Not everyone is made for such. (-,-) Not everyone wants to live with someone.


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PostPosted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 6:03 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Yeah I don't understand them either. Those people probably can't count how many relationships they've been in and each one probably never lasted a long time anyway. They should probably look at themselves before they judge other people.

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PostPosted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 9:36 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Because it's so abnormal. I never tell anyone that I've never been in a serious relationship.

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PostPosted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 10:26 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Coz it's the main reason here on this planet...without SA/self-esteem issues most here would've been in relationships, it's natural

btw Kien I don't think anyone is 'unworthy' of love, if someone told you that would you believe them? I think most relationships come unexpectedly.

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PostPosted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 11:21 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

chris420 wrote:

btw Kien I don't think anyone is 'unworthy' of love, if someone told you that would you believe them? I think most relationships come unexpectedly.

Yes. :/


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PostPosted: Thu Apr 10, 2008 12:19 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Because it's abnormal to spend your entire life alone. Men and women are made for each other. Besides, humans are social animals. Denying all this won't get us anywhere.

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PostPosted: Fri Apr 11, 2008 10:26 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I get kind of embarrassed just thinking of all the people I know knowing that they know I've never been in a relationship. Men and women are meant to be with each other. Let me just put it this way. Do you desire the opposite sex? If so then you're meant to be in a relationship. But that doesn't mean you're any less of a person if you aren't in a relationship. And if you're like me you'll have friends that think you don't deserve or will never be in a relationship. That alone should give you motivation to find a mate and prove them wrong. But if you really are not interesting in finding a partner you should just live your life the way you see fit and don't worry what everyone else thinks. I do think a mate would be good for everyone on here though as it is motivation for improving one's self.

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PostPosted: Thu May 08, 2008 7:54 pm    Post subject: RELATIONSHIPS Reply with quote

I know exactly what you are talking about. Its not good or bad to be single or in a relationship. I like to think of it as a temporary condition. Nothing stays the same.

Most of those mainstreamers seem like they suffer from sepration anxiety.LOL They cant go a week with out being in a relationship so they just end up takeing the first thing that comes along and has a pulse. Thats why the divorce rate is so hi. People are alwayse in a hurry to hook up in a relationship. Whats the hurry i mean its a long life.

I am not saying we should avoid relationships and stay single; but , we need to ask our selves who are we getting into the rlationship for. Is it for us or to please people?

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PostPosted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 7:03 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Humans are social beings by default...so it's only natural for "normal" people to assume that any human that isn't social or hasn't been in a relationship is abnormal.


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PostPosted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 7:26 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

When I meet new people, for some reason, I automatically assume that they haven't been in a relationship, until they tell me otherwise Very Happy


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