AvPD versus SAD/SP ...here's what I've found!

Smudgo · Newbie User Joined: Nov 13, 2006 Posts: 24

nope it dont work for me either.

frustr4t3d · Newbie User Joined: Dec 07, 2006 Posts: 57

ShiJai · Posted: Thu Dec 14, 2006 5:55 am Post subject:

Thankyou.

ShiJai.
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featherflight · Posted: Fri Feb 23, 2007 2:02 am Post subject:

i'm confused. Why the xx ?, If anyone else is wondering how to access the link just remove the q from councelling. They misspelt it.

ether · Newbie User Joined: Apr 04, 2007 Posts: 1

I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder...yet my therapist questioned that...she said I was at least a high functioning Borderline. When I read up on Avoidants...I was like "BINGO!" it fit me to a tee. I fall under the category of femme fatale. I all goes much deeper than social anxiety. Av's won't interact on a social level unless absolutely sure of acceptance. This goes for relationships. We choose people who are not really good because they won't reject us. Yet, we grow tired of them, and dump them...without warning (at least I have). Can't face the "talk".

We put on a "face" because we are so scared people will see the "real" us, and not like what they see. We feel fundamentally flawed compared to others. Low self-esteem (even if unwarranted), depressions plays a part. I was labeled "sensitive as a child. My mother was overprotective as well, she put all her fears into me. Watch Pink Floyd's "The Wall"

If I was not "perfect" in a situation I would drop out, instead of just enjoying what I was doing. Constantly monitoring people's reactions to me as well as my body language, terrified of confrontation. Run away run away. Lost many friends due to "fear". People don't understand how exhausting and crippling this disorder is. They say it is easy to treat,but I wonder...looking for help myself.

dontgetit · Newbie User Joined: Apr 19, 2008 Posts: 8

I posted a question earlier in an earlier post - but reading the last email realized this is my ex-boyfriend. I say 'ex' because he simply decided I deserved better and he couldn't take the 'questions' . Is is common to get so angry when someone asks for clarificaiton or asks 'why'?
He kept this from me for over 7 months though I did a mental note at times that a incident was a bit weird or over the top reaction. Since he came 'clean' the relationship destructed very quickly.
You talk about fear and I have tried to help him through his fear and point out his unrealistic thoughts at times. Well, he only sees this as an attack and not help.
I know it must be emotionally exhausting to deal with this 24/7, but it should be noted that the people who love all of you are frustruated too.
We go the extra mile to ensure we say the right thing. To helplessly watch a loved one self-destruct is the worst pain any person will go through in life.