looking for help to overcome my fear of talking to females

shyguy84 · Guest

hi im 20 yr old male and i am very shy i am not a very out going person because of my shyness i an afraid to approch women because i am afraid of what they will think of me and getting rejected. i have a very hard time making eye contact with people. when i was a kid i was a happy person but for a long time now i have not been. i never really ever feel happy. and when i am i dosent really show. If anyone has any advice that good help me get over my fears and to start feeling good about my self please post your thoughs

Guest · Posted: Tue Feb 22, 2005 6:40 am Post subject:

Go to strip clubs and meet some hot women in a relaxed social setting. Tell them about your social fears, and find out how they react to what you are telling them. Touch their bodies, etc.

WORD OF WARNING: This can become an extremely compulsive behavior and you can blow TONS of money doing this. You may need a 12 step program to pry yourself out of the strip club world. Let all of your friends and family know about your problem and monitor your progress.

I used to be the way you are, I am a lot more confident now, but I find myself still going back to the strip clubs for a little "sexual healing."

You missed out on the #1 task facing young men: to learn how to integrate their sexual feelings about women into their lives.

Check out this account:

http://www.colosaaintergroup.org/page13.html

GettingThere · Posted: Tue Feb 22, 2005 9:04 am Post subject:

There are pleanty of web sites where you could place a free personal ad. In that ad you could stipulate that you are a shy person. That way any girl who you meet will know what to expect. Rememebr that for every shy gut there is roughly one shy girl so don't think that it is an impossible dream because it certainly isn't.

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Yossarian · Posted: Tue Feb 22, 2005 10:47 pm Post subject:

God knows why I would be giving advice about women but maybe a few ideas:

Don't see them as 'women' but individuals. Remember you're a human being and have something to offer people in terms of friendship/relationships. Stop worrying so much about pleasing others and remember that any relationship involves 2 people so look for someone that you would be happy with. Learn to accept or get used to life alone so it doesn't become the be all and end all of your life. Ummm... and practice. Talk to women of all kinds. Probably a load of bollocks but hey.

shyguy05 · Posted: Thu Feb 24, 2005 6:50 am Post subject:

Guest · Posted: Thu Feb 24, 2005 4:39 pm Post subject:

While he thinks about it...
i would like to say that letters without caps
(LIKE THIS PHRASE) or letters with color anf font size (LIKE THIS) Are way less legible than letters with a duable size. the sight learns to associate and read faster if the words are not in CAPS. I also study graphic design and i dont think caps and color fonts are comfortable to the sight. the more caps you use, the slower the reading is. but u still rule worry Wink

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Yossarian · Posted: Thu Feb 24, 2005 4:50 pm Post subject:

Guest · Posted: Thu Feb 24, 2005 5:03 pm Post subject:

Guest · Posted: Thu Feb 24, 2005 5:29 pm Post subject:

the only word in all caps was "AND"

admitedly, it did take me 35 seconds to read it

shyguy05 · Posted: Thu Feb 24, 2005 8:03 pm Post subject: