Shyness with opposite gender

Blackmagic479 · Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 3:46 am Post subject: Shyness with opposite gender

I've just been in a situation where someone took the only girl I was semi interested in. My shyness prevented me from intervening in getting this girl. Some guy less shy than me just took the girl I wanted. How do you prevent this from happening... I find that this happens all the time, someone is always out to steal the girl I want that night. How do I prevent this from happening? What is the proper way to tell someone to f' off of your girl? Right now I feel really heart torn, the girl that I think I might have an actual chance just disappeared with another guy. When do you shy people get a girl, probably never... It's starting to really get on my nerves. We shy people never get our dream person. How come people constantly mess with us? I'm getting really sick of people taking advantage of us.

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4seasons · Advanced User Joined: Apr 12, 2007 Posts: 370

Yeeep, sorry to hear that bro. This happend to me twice, I told you about one time. Someone hook us up with some advice before this shit happens again....it really sucks ass.

Blackmagic479 · Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 4:07 am Post subject:

I don't know how many rejections I can take. I don't know how long I can wait until the "right" girl will be with me. I don't even think any girl is meant for me. My life is spiraling down to nothingness. What's the point of life If you can't even communicate with the opposite sex.

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bletch · Newbie User Joined: Apr 19, 2008 Posts: 13

ripewithdecay · Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 8:53 am Post subject:

Bring a little tube of ex-lax around with you or something and sabotage the bastard's drink when he's not looking.

Blackmagic479 · Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 10:11 am Post subject:

That's an interesting suggestion. I was the guy pouring drinks too, good advice. That still doesn't solve the problem of me being shy though.

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Carstuar · Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 10:18 am Post subject:

ghost_train · Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 10:43 am Post subject:

haha. can you imagine an SA house party- there'd be shit everywhere.

But I totally identify with this. It has got to be one of the most devastating things- when you see that a girl likes you, you like her, but so do a bunch of other guys. and it's one of those other guys that eventually win her over as she occasionally glances at you looking concerned/disappointed thinking "why doesn't he like me?". fuck.

AlinaGirl · Newbie User Joined: Feb 11, 2008 Posts: 10 Location: USA

I can speak for the other side, at least. I'm a girl, I'm shy, and I do encounter a lot of shy guys at my college. One reason that a girl might go with the swoop-in, aggressive kind of guy could be because she didn't know the shy guy was interested. She doesn't want to feel rejected either, so if someone asks her, she often jumps at the chance.

But I understand what you mean. That has happened to me with guys. I can tell a guy is interested, yet because I don't give him enough encouragement or show that I'm interested in him, then boom! I see him suddenly getting a girlfriend, or talking to another girl. And I'm left trying to figure out what on earth just happened.

Kien · Posted: Thu Apr 24, 2008 12:35 am Post subject:

Others has as much right ot the girl as you have.

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