Great difficulties with non-verbal eye contact

scorpion · Posted: Mon Apr 28, 2008 5:26 pm Post subject:

I use to feel extremely uncomfortable looking people in the eyes, and I still do in a certain way.
But recently I have found out that loking people in the eyes makes most of them as unconfrotable as me or even more, because I know I am like that because of the APD.
So what do I do now? I look people in the eyes and try to maintain contact until the other person looks away, surprisingly I discovered that the other person often breaks contact before me and that makes me feel more secure.
Knowing that there was a reason for me to do certain things (APD) as helped me to start doing the oposite, its still small stuff but its a start.
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princess_haru · Posted: Mon Apr 28, 2008 6:23 pm Post subject:

I find eye contact awkward - I always feel as though I'm either staring and making people feel uncomfortable, or looking away and appearing uninterested and rude. It's so hard to find the right balance of looking at/away from people.

Also, I get paranoid about my facial expressions - am I glaring at them, smiling too much, looking snooty and bored?! I sometimes wish there was a mirror behind the person I'm talking to so that I could check how I'm coming across! Vain? No, just paranoid... Confused

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