Social networking sites scare me

recluse · Posted: Mon Apr 28, 2008 7:13 pm Post subject: Social networking sites scare me

I've joined a new social networking site and i have already made about 10 contacts (they contacted me first) and i feel so bloody weird...Everyone seems to be outgoing and they ask me what i've been doing on the weekend. I just don't feel that i am at the same level as these people and feel that i have nothing in common. I think i better stick to other social phobic people from now on.

Richey · Expert User Joined: Sep 28, 2005 Posts: 730

I think you need to look at how sincere and or fake these people are bieng in their descriptions, photos of people in nightclubs flaunting around and posing to the camera, there is nothing wrong with it but you get people bragging about how often they go drinking, what does it mean? it means jack shit in the long run ...i could care less about that ...thats all apart of the scenery ...

if i have something in common with another person and we enjoy each others time together, the rest is peripheral, so its never a competition of popularity for me ..

so try and respect yourself for who you are and dont judge yourself on the basis of how much you drink or whether you go to clubs all the time or if your interesting enough..

wehn i was 18, 19 i frequented bars and its nothing special ..

find what makes you tick, not what you want others to think of you and just roll with it, focus on your individual interests and then you can discuss them with people on those networking sites. . ..

blonderedhead · Posted: Mon Apr 28, 2008 7:39 pm Post subject:

awww but agreed! I feel so strange talking to socially competent people. I have nothing to talk about and I feel like I'm just way too damn depressing. But 10 people contacted you so far! Thats really good! They must of found you interesting in someway or another. And everyone is only human so theres always something to have in common. I don't think its good to just stick with Social phobics (I do the same thing) but I think its another way of isolating ourselves.

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recluse · Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 8:36 pm Post subject:

aj · Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 9:19 pm Post subject:

I've thought that since I first heard of MySpace. On Facebook, I have nine friends. I have met six of them in real life. Well one of them has four hundred and fifty one friends. Do you think she talks to and sees all of them regularly? Nothing against her but obviously she puts everyone she meets on there. They're like trading cards.

slicenrice · Newbie User Joined: Apr 08, 2008 Posts: 73

what sites did you join, if you don't mind my inquiry?

Seabreeze · Posted: Wed Apr 30, 2008 10:02 am Post subject:

toothpastekisses · Posted: Wed Apr 30, 2008 11:49 am Post subject:

I hate these sites, I hate the way they're like a contest for getting the most "friends" and good pictures. I hate bulletins people make about how incredibly "popular" and "happy" they are. If you don't have many "friends" on them, you feel like a loser. I believe they destroy self-esteem enormously. I was browsing once and found loads of old mates on facebook but didn't dare add them due to embarassment that they'd think I was sad as I had added few friends and had no "tagged" photos of me having fun (these people knew me before my SA fully developed). But yeah...I deleted my account soon afterwards, never going to get sucked into all that crap again.

noblame4 · Posted: Thu May 01, 2008 5:44 pm Post subject:

I dont like them, either. I get nervous replying to messages, and even posting in forums. I keep picturing the other person reading what i wrote and thinking, "What the?! This person's a freak/weirdo/asshole!" even though I know they can't POSSIBLY know what i'm like from a few little scentances. Rolling Eyes

autumn_82 · Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 8:42 am Post subject:

Well, I finally joined Facebook about a year or so ago, and I like it because it's let me find friends from long ago (before I became so paralyzed by SA), which is really cool. But I also have some anxiety about it, because I only have 11 people on there, as opposed to most others I know who have about 200 "friends." I liked someone's comment that friends on these sites are just like trading cards.
Every time I've invited someone I kind of hold my breath, waiting for them to not accept my invitation. But so far so good. Have any of you gotten rejected from making an invitation?
The way people reveal their lives and their personalities is pretty scary for me. I'd be scared to put pictures up or talk about myself, simply for fear of being laughed at or ridiculed.