age and maturity

wooaah · Intermediate User Joined: Apr 24, 2008 Posts: 108

I'm in my mid 20s. Today I foundout that someone who i believed was older than me by at least 10 years based on how mature he was, the way he acted, etc, is actually younger than me.

It kinda hit me that, while everyone is growing up, i stopped. And while being a big kid seems nice, i feel like i stayed a kid in areas like independence, confidence, etc, which isn't nice. I wonder if its because I don't spend a healthy enough amount of time with my peers.

SleepingBeauty · Posted: Mon May 05, 2008 7:58 am Post subject:

Well im 20. And I think i can act my age, but I feel like I missed out on learning a lot of things. From about age 16 to now, I havent had much social contact with people my own age...or even just in general.

So I do feel kinda "behind". Lots of people my age have done way more and experienced a hell of a lot more then muah.

But we reallyyyy shouldnt compare ourselves to other people. There is nothing wrong with being a little "behind". Well learn in time. We dont all become adults at the same age.

I hope i made sence, im super tired and i cant think straight. Ill take a look again tomorrow Very Happy

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recluse · Posted: Mon May 05, 2008 9:52 am Post subject:

What hurts is seeing younger people who have already established lives i.e - Their own house, relationships.

Strong_Silent_One · Newbie User Joined: Jul 25, 2006 Posts: 19

Thats one of the problems I have right now. I'm 37 and theres' this guy at my job -hi's just 22- and he laughs at me cause i don't even have a girlfriend, while he has a model as a girlfriend. (though i think this guy is a superficial and we can't compare).
I don't know.... i've been so bad and depressed since i'm in this job cause everyone laughs at me for being so shy and because i never have one single f*** date with a girl. Actually not that i do too much to get a date.... i can't believe any girl could ever be interested in me... so why should i try? Every time i do, the only thing i get is a smile and a gentle "sorry, but..."
I'm already tired of life.

Carstuar · Posted: Mon May 05, 2008 12:42 pm Post subject:

I'm turning 21 this month, and I feel like a child. Apart from living in my own apartment I'm no more mature now than I was at 18.

Katex88x · Posted: Mon May 05, 2008 1:12 pm Post subject:

People say I am very mature for my age but like Cars I feel like a child too. I share the same opinion as recluse whereby seeing people more established than myself puts me down. I dunno maybe I'm not feeling very positive today. I'm only 19 after all... Rolling Eyes

Kien · Posted: Mon May 05, 2008 2:26 pm Post subject:

I feel that I have matured pretty much during last year. My borthers GF mentioned it my mom that she thought I had. I feel it myself too. But I still don't think I am as old in my mind as I should be.

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scorpion · Posted: Mon May 05, 2008 7:18 pm Post subject:

Age doesnt implicate maturity, and maturity doesnt demand social expirience.
A person can be mature and lack the experience in certains fields.
Because we feel that we need experience or because we cant act in many social situations, doesnt mean we are not mature.

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introvert · Posted: Mon May 05, 2008 9:02 pm Post subject:

Exactly, scorpion has described it well I think. Today I went on a second date with a woman who is 10 years older than me (I'm 23). I find her attractive, but I was rejected today. The reason she gave me was that I wasn't really experienced enough for her taste. I'm a very mature person, It's just that I lack experience in certain areas (socialising, kissing, knowing how to "handle" women etc.).

Anyway, I guess I'm kind of venting here... don't like getting shot down. Laughing

HideNSeek · Newbie User Joined: May 06, 2008 Posts: 7

People around my age (21) sometimes say they think I'm more mature than they are because I'm not always getting drunk, having casual sex, etc, etc. That's not the way I see it though. Often what they don't realise is that everything but the social part of me, the part you need to be openly childish, careless etc, is stuck somewhere in the past.

I'm starting to see people I went to school with getting married or having kids, and despite the many "immature" aspects to their personality that they express socially, I still know that they're a million times more mature than I am right now. Sucks.