one comment which has affected your confidence

steel_sparks · Newbie User Joined: Mar 25, 2007 Posts: 36 Location: Wales

I used to get told to smile a lot, and people would say "cheer up it might never happen", little did they know the reason I wasn't happy was because It wasn't happening, whatever it was at the time.

on the plus side I got invited to a friends engagement party last night and that in it's self was a confidence boost but I went up to do karaoke and during an instrumental part a girl came up to t me and asked if my mic was on, when I said yes she said fair play, that really boosted my confidence that someone would think I sounded like peter andre. and then when I sat back down I got people asking me to go up again and I got a toast to my new found confidence from a friend.

Karaoke has boosted my confidence no end lately because of the many comments I've gotten, I know it's not a normal activity for a social phobic but after the first time I feel confident doing it and it's an escape from my normal timid self which will hopefully spread into my daily life.

that1guy · Newbie User Joined: May 06, 2008 Posts: 65

yeah I like the positive comments also.
I was hired for a local newspaper to write about the local high school sports about six months ago. Since then, I have had so many good things said to me about my work. It makes me feel so good about myself when this happens. I was having such a tough year before I was offered this job. It's a true blessing. I was just at the local old town resteraunt when I was offered the job. And geuss why I was up there in the first place: for a bible study. Ive had such a tough year that, I've got to admit, this is the only reason that I still believe in god.

Quetzalcoatl · Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 4:42 am Post subject:

There are a bunch of things thave have been said to me that really rocked the already shaky foundation of my self - esteem. Things said such as "I look bad in pictures", or that I "look and act awkward" and one time I was dating some girl and since I was shy, she said "You act feminine, like yovue changed since last time I saw you". I found that last one to be a bit odd...Maybe its the long hair? Hahaha

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Solid_Snake · Newbie User Joined: May 05, 2008 Posts: 6 Location: Japan

People at my old job saying that I am gay or that there is something wrong with my body, because in the period I worked there I avoided some pretty attractive girls that liked me ,I am at a new job,but it still haunts me,I remenber a lot.......

princess_haru · Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 6:05 pm Post subject:

Richey · Expert User Joined: Sep 28, 2005 Posts: 822

"So i suppose you were a nerd back in school", chef at work ..

"Didn't you just tell me that before", awkward, waitress at restaurant i worked Rolling Eyes

"You'll be the least likely to succeed out of everyone in the class", high school days

"He's not my son", my dad said it a few times

"There is nothing wrong with being gay", this from lack of a girlfriend

"You know kids are supposed go out and drink every night these days, what is wrong with you, you have a problem"

there has been many negative comments over the years from people i have to say, i just have to try and not let it get to me too much

87271 · Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 6:20 pm Post subject:

This is pretty sad that I still remember this since it happened in Middle School and I am now in College, but it just stung. It was during my algebra class. I hated that class and the people in it, so I always sat in the front row. I never talked to anyone. One day, I arrived late and sat down in my normal seat. Than, this scrawny kid that I didn't really know whispered to another kid "That guy has like NO friends". Then the two started laughing. I just wanted to turn around and say something, but I just couldn't. I just hate people sometimes.

Quetzalcoatl · Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 6:29 pm Post subject:

strawberrybrunette · Posted: Thu May 08, 2008 9:01 am Post subject:

"You might be intelligent, but you're also really ugly"

Ouch. Three years ago, and it still hurts. Funny thing is i've never said anything to offend the guy who said that, ever. Some people just say horrid things for the sake of it, don't they? I don't understand why they do that...

celestialrecluse · Posted: Thu May 08, 2008 10:11 am Post subject:

"you're such a lost cause, if it wasn't for your looks, you'd be fcuked in life, you know that don't you, thats why your the way you are, get over yourself"

those kind words were from my ex bf!

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