I am intimidated by PARTY/CLUBBER PEOPLE!!

Richey · Expert User Joined: Sep 28, 2005 Posts: 776

Clubbing is no big deal, the point of it is to drink and dance right? ..so it isnt the clubbing that intimidates me its the people who can talk and be outgoing whilst looking amazing that its almost uncomortable to be around them because they seem like on such a higher plane of social practice all the time that i envy ...

IcarusUnderWater2 · Intermediate User Joined: Mar 15, 2008 Posts: 199

Johno · Posted: Fri Apr 11, 2008 5:34 pm Post subject: OK stressball

U want to be a clubber stressball? Let me remind you that it is a delusion to assume they are all rocking and having the best of times. I'm sure clubbing is the answer to all your problems. Get serious man. It's just a temporary thing. Furthermore most of those guys need drugs to have a good time. Without (the drugs) they are afraid (like some of us) of socialising.

recluse · Posted: Fri Apr 11, 2008 7:56 pm Post subject:

It's true what Johno is saying; Have you noticed that people out clubbing are either drunk o'r wasted on pills?....It take more guts to be sober.

ktea · Posted: Sat Apr 12, 2008 7:05 am Post subject:

I really know how you feel. I've never been to a club, I'm only 15, lol. But I do avoid parties. I'm so depressed. I don't know what to do with my life. I have no friends at all. no one to talk to.. I really want to have friends but I'm so afraid and anxious. I don't even know why I'm this way. Was I born this way? Is this some kind of cruel and unusual punishment?? Why am I like this when everyone else in my family isn't?

Johno · Posted: Fri Apr 18, 2008 8:10 pm Post subject:

This is for you ktea. I know how you feel. Many of us do. Some of us have been there. My suggestion to you would be as follows. Research your issues on the internet. Get some idea of what you are struggling with. One would assume social anxiety. If so it's not that bad. You just need to take the next step. That usually involves contacting a support group or talking to your doctor (sometimes, demanding that he listens). If he doesn't listen there is usually a number you can ring for help. The phone book is more than an arm rest. I know how scary it is. It's, let be frank terrifying. I’ve been there. It's like this massive shell you are in and you just can't break out of it. I totally suggest being stubborn and not going to school or just telling someone like your mother, principal, brother, father, neighbour, priest, sister, doctor, school counselor, just some one who will act on you behalf.

All the best

ghost_train · Posted: Fri Apr 18, 2008 9:19 pm Post subject:

I know exactly what you mean about this 'type' of person. I find them much easier to be around in small groups or on a one to one basis. They are the type of people that seem to have mastered small talk and have a limitless conversation-making ability, which is highly beneficial as I seem to be able to fine actively engaging in pretty much any conversation so long as the topic is handed to me on a plate.

Though I'm sure it's not true, I have often thought that having this small-talk-making ability would 'complete' me and allow me to live the kind of life that I strive for.

Broken_Memory · Posted: Fri Apr 18, 2008 9:37 pm Post subject:

OH my gosh, YES!! I realized that today in English class. There's people in the class that talk about going clubbing (the teacher- who is really outgoing even talks about it with them. what is the world coming to). I feel like I'm in a totally different world from them. I can't imagine being in a place where its all about meeting people because you're busy exposing yourself in flashy outfits. I know there's more to it than that, but in any case, it would be a nightmare going clubbing!

I find I relate so much more to people that have some sort of conflict in life, something that's holding them back socially. People who go clubbing seem to be so free. I know they have other problems of their own, but I always feel like they make life look so easy. It terrifies me, the thought of going somewhere for the very purpose of meeting new people and socializing.

Stressball, I always feel like I have nothing new to say to certain people either. I feel like everyone else is an expert on certain topics and that they have so much to say and that their lives are so darn free.

In my English class today (today was my second day of class) I was speaking with the boy beside me and I felt at ease with him (compared to how I feel with most new people anyway) because he's had issues - like me- in high school too (not social phobia though as far as I know). There's just so many people in the class I observe and I think "oh my god, I'd never be able to talk with them".

Johno · Posted: Sat May 10, 2008 1:18 pm Post subject:

Totally not sure how to respond to that......................But, I will give it my best. Perhaps one should relax and then go to sleep. Well it has worked for others.........

aboobooboobooo · Newbie User Joined: May 07, 2008 Posts: 38