Neighbor spreading nasty rumor-help!

lonely_world · Intermediate User Joined: Jul 04, 2007 Posts: 145

I am so upset and angry, I don't know what I really should do here. I just found out that one of my neighbors told another one(probably more),that I had starved my dogs. EXCUSE ME?!!! If anything, I overfed them! One of my neighbors who is a good friend, and has had trouble with this lady too,is on my side and she wants to go to the apartment manager with me, but the manager already told me that she doesn't want to get involved. OMG, I am so trying to keep my temper from really getting control over me. I want to confront this terrible person, but i'm afraid of what may happen. Not just from me, but she obviously has quite an issue with anger too. She has done nothing but piss me off from the first day I had moved in, what can I do here? Help!!!!!!!! Evil or Very Mad

sabbath92003 · Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 9:11 am Post subject:

Ignore them. Let them gossip all they want. I treat gossipy neighbors like gnats. The best revenge is living well.

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Katex88x · Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 9:39 am Post subject:

Just start a rumour about her. When my neighbours played loud music I joined in with some nice loud beating stuff and they soon shut up Very Happy

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Sacrament · Advanced User Joined: Aug 15, 2006 Posts: 440

Spread the rumor that your dog's been sick and that you saw your neighbor 'feeding him' something. That'll shut her up. Also, let everyone know that your dog had a limp for a week because your neighbor kicked him. It's easy to counter-attack Cool

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Fairy001 · Intermediate User Joined: Apr 06, 2008 Posts: 208

The hardest thing to do, but also the most effective would be to ignore your neighbour. You clearly have something they are jealous of, maybe your dog.

Rise above it, as infuriating and insulting as it is, you are better than them, and you have a lovely pet. Smile

Peace xxx

I will just add, what goes around comes around. Life has a way of giving us all back what we have sent out! Not to say you deserve this, but I am sure one day your neighbour will have a neighbour from hell themselves.

recluse · Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 6:22 pm Post subject:

I can't believe how pathetic some people can be! I mean are they bored o'r what to start rumours like this! I know of someone who live near by, and he accused a man of being a paedophile for no reason! Now the man who was accused is taking him to court.

Volcano · Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 7:44 pm Post subject:

Get a solicitor to send a strong letter to them. In comon law countries like England (and I think many of the States and Canada) libel has potentially unlimited legal remedy.

Obviously don't take it all the way. But that threat will make your neighbors feel as anxious as you do. They need to understand how they make other peopel feel. They can't expect to act like 5 year olds and get away with it.