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Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 10:33 pm Post subject:
When i am really nervous such as in job interviews, my legs turn to jelly and i feel like i am drunk almost, i feel clumsy as if i am going to bump into things and people. I also turn all stiff and i sort of keep my arms rigid.
When i am really nervous such as in job interviews, my legs turn to jelly and i feel like i am drunk almost, i feel clumsy as if i am going to bump into things and people. I also turn all stiff and i sort of keep my arms rigid.
Lol, yeah I get that stiff-but-jellyfied feeling too. It's horrible! I try to think graceful thoughts and imagine I'm a dancer to counteract it, but I'm still as clumsy and awkward as ever *sigh*
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I'm fine until I know people are watching me, because then I start concentrating on how I'm walking, which of course results in me looking so awkward and tripping over things. It's a horrible cycle.
I am really amazed to see that so many people experience the same extreme self-consciousness. While it was occurring, I felt as if I was the only one in the world who felt that way. It definitely helps to know that you are not alone.
I am really amazed to see that so many people experience the same extreme self-consciousness. While it was occurring, I felt as if I was the only one in the world who felt that way. It definitely helps to know that you are not alone.
I know what you mean, I no longer feel totally alone in my problems! I've been told I walk really fast and hate walking past people I recognise if I feel they're watching me, or sitting down. I dunno what to do with my arms or posture so I usually just hang on to my bag for dear life, it sucks. Without my saviour that is my bag my arms just...hang there stiffly. It doesn't really help that I'm quite tall and once, for no apparent reason whatsoever, got called a "lanky hoe" (lol isn't that a garden tool? :s) by some arsehole chav once.
Joined: Jan 07, 2007 Posts: 570 Location: Lincolnshire
Posted: Thu May 15, 2008 9:07 pm Post subject:
I have this problem also.
What i've started doing is walking normally, i.e. swinging my arms, in quiet places where there aren't many people, so that I get used to it and more comfortable with walking that way.
I still haven't managed to do it in a busy public place yet, but I can now walk properly around my school and on the way to and from school...which for me is quite an acheivement
Have a go
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I think a big part of the problem is what we are saying to ourselves when the self-consciousness is happening...They are looking at me...I must look stupid...oh no, here comes a large group of people, let me try to walk normal...and on and on. What if we start telling ourselves something different: so what if I feel uncomfortable while walking in public...I can tolerate my discomfort...I don't have to be 100% comfortable while walking in public to get where I am going...Most people are so busy going about their business such that I am probably the last thing on their mind...I can enjoy walking in public no matter how I feel...
I am really amazed to see that so many people experience the same extreme self-consciousness. While it was occurring, I felt as if I was the only one in the world who felt that way. It definitely helps to know that you are not alone.
I know what you mean, I no longer feel totally alone in my problems! I've been told I walk really fast and hate walking past people I recognise if I feel they're watching me, or sitting down. I dunno what to do with my arms or posture so I usually just hang on to my bag for dear life, it sucks. Without my saviour that is my bag my arms just...hang there stiffly. It doesn't really help that I'm quite tall and once, for no apparent reason whatsoever, got called a "lanky hoe" (lol isn't that a garden tool? :s) by some arsehole chav once.
Damn, what an asshole! I wouldn't waste your time thinking about people like that.
Funnily enough I walk really fast too, I don't realise really. It is best to have something to hold. There's nothing worse when I don't know what to do with my arms lol. I usually feel uncomfortable having my hands in my pockets.
I'm exactly the same, when walking down the road I feel very self conscious about my walking. I think people walking past or in cars are staring at me, watching my 'weird walk'. The worst is when a bus full of people goes past, thats when I feel really bad
As for comments that have stuck with me, its a stupid one but I once got told by a 'friend' that I walked like a 'constipated penguin'! I dont find the comment itself offensive but when somebody brings one of your insecurities 'to light' it tends to stick around in the back of your head
I'm exactly the same, when walking down the road I feel very self conscious about my walking. I think people walking past or in cars are staring at me, watching my 'weird walk'. The worst is when a bus full of people goes past, thats when I feel really bad
As for comments that have stuck with me, its a stupid one but I once got told by a 'friend' that I walked like a 'constipated penguin'! I dont find the comment itself offensive but when somebody brings one of your insecurities 'to light' it tends to stick around in the back of your head
my eyes begin to tear and i don't know what to do with my hands
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