Shyness with opposite gender

erika · Newbie User Joined: Apr 02, 2008 Posts: 6

Yea I agree with AlinaGirl, Blackmagic. But don't beat yourself up over one girl. They may not last long anyhow and you still could have a chance. And if not then you can learn from this and hopefully next time get the girl!

I know it isn't easy to ask someone out, I never could either. But the thing you have to think about is what is worse.........the girl saying no, or not asking when she actually could have said yes, but lost the chance to another guy?

I fell hard for this guy before and I never would tell him I liked him, and he never said anything to me. So I just let it go, cause I was afraid, and I thought if he felt the same he would ask me. Well he eventually got married, and my mom told him that I really had liked him, and he said "REALLY" I never knew. And if I would have asked him out he would probably have said yes.

It is a risk either way, asking or not asking someone out.

coriander1992 · Posted: Sun Apr 27, 2008 8:05 am Post subject:

Well obviously the only way to stop that happening is to get in there first!

The other guy didn't waste any time, and he got the girl! If you really want her you've just got to go for it, no matter how hard it is.

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ReVeR · Newbie User Joined: Jun 01, 2008 Posts: 13

i have manged to talk to a good amount of girls throughout my life
and when i look back at this i realized i had maybe 3 or 4 wonderful girls that i had a chance to ask out and yet i never got to do it. i would always warm a girl up for a relationship but i guess they would think i would never ask them out (just as it was happening ) so they continued dating other guys.

once they would find a boyfriend it would kill me inside to see this other bastard with the girl i wanted, i always thought they weren't even half the person i was and yet they were together all because i was too damn shy

fuck, i screwed up again... i

JustAnotherDay · Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 12:30 am Post subject:

The obvious problem is your shyness. The only way to get the girl you want would be by losing the shyness. Its not some mental disorder impossible to overcome.. It basically just not feeling comftrable with girls because either you never talk to them or you dont push youself to. Expossing yourself and being more outgoing with girls will make it more and more easier to get over it. You cant skip over the problem and expect to get what you want. You should just make a big effort to be around girls more to understand them and realize that there's nothing to be shy about.

Carstuar · Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 1:44 am Post subject:

My shyness is mainly with authority figures and strangers in general. Gender does not matter to me.

skapunk23 · Newbie User Joined: Jun 07, 2008 Posts: 5