Absolutely Terrified of attending college

txjeepin · Newbie User Joined: Feb 28, 2008 Posts: 21

LALLY i posted in your thread on depression forum.

I am in college right now (1st year) let me give you some advice

1. Always face your fear. I know it seems like a daunting task to go but later in life you will regret not experiencing college. Don't take online courses. Get a dorm mate. I know that may be scary, but that is one mistake i made. Right now i feel separate from most of my school mates because they share the commonality of living together. You don't want to be an outsider in college it will only progress your depression.

2. Always say hi to people in your classes and on campus. People are very receptive to a smile and a "hey". It will get you so far in the social world. When you are quiet or do not look at people they naturally don't recognize you. When you give someone eye contact and assure them that you are friendly/willing to talk they will almost always will come up to you and try to befriend you. College is waaaaay different than High School. 90% of the people there are mature and do not care how you look. I have found that people just want someone to talk to in college. they aren't even caring how you look/act.

3. What could possibly happen if you went to college? Social anxiety is shrouding your real character. Don't let it cover you up and hold you back. 100% of the time people with sa blow situations way out of proportion. I found that if you jump right in to horrible situations they don't seem so horrible anymore. Everyone gets used to repetition and you will get used to meeting people.

4. If you don't make friends in your first semester, big deal. You have 3.5 more semseters to go. Never let the negative overcome the positive. Keep telling yourself that things will get better. Don't get down on yourself just think of ow unproductive that will be.

5. Take your fear and throw it in the trash can. Things are not so bad. I used to be so afraid of high school, college. so much so that i became very self-conscious about how i looked/acted/talked. Thinking about your fear only makes it larger than it really is.

6. I may have said this b4 but if you feel like you don't know how to talk to others or make friends dont worry cause i have some advice. people love nice people. always offer help if you feel others need it. being quiet is not a bad thing. as long as you greet others, have simple conversations, friendships build over time. NEVER LET YOURSELF E ABSOLUTELY QUIET. SAY HELLLO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

platinumct44 · Newbie User Joined: Jun 09, 2008 Posts: 5

im about to attend college too and the though of meeting new people is pretty scary. My brother went to college b4 me and he suffers from social anxiety disorder and he still says college is a blast. Even though it sucks thinking about it the time will come and it will be over with and u should feel a little more relaxed after college starts or atleast thats what im hoping will happen

FunwithPineTrees · Newbie User Joined: Jun 10, 2008 Posts: 27

so i have to go to college soon, but it seems like a pain. is anyone here going to go to the college i am going to