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eR1k
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PostPosted: Wed Jun 18, 2008 8:46 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Morose wrote:

I actually have been trying to improve my self esteem/confidence, and earlier today a woman did try to 'chat me up'. The only problem was that she was about 5'11" 200+ Lbs and looked like she was about 19 years old. She seemed like a very nice girl, but I'm not looking for a nice girl, I'm looking for a naughty girl. I just wasn't interested.


Good to hear that Smile When you talk to her it doesn't mean you are obliged to have romantic feelings towards her. You are just talking, having fun. Talking to anyone regardless of age, posture, personality is a good thing. Perhaps when you talk to more women you aren't romantically interested in, you will feel more relaxed once that naughty girl catches your eye and starts a conversation ! Cool

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Morose
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PostPosted: Wed Jun 18, 2008 9:30 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

eR1k wrote:
Perhaps when you talk to more women you aren't romantically interested in, you will feel more relaxed once that naughty girl catches your eye and starts a conversation ! Cool


I have never had a problem talking to anyone except those girls I have feelings for. I edited my previous post to reflect that but failed to notice you had already responded because it was on a new page, I guess you made this post before I changed it. I've never had a problem talking with girls I didn't fancy, only the ones I do. It's been that way my whole life.



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IBM
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PostPosted: Wed Jun 18, 2008 9:32 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Morose wrote:
eR1k wrote:
Perhaps when you talk to more women you aren't romantically interested in, you will feel more relaxed once that naughty girl catches your eye and starts a conversation ! Cool


I have never had a problem talking to anyone except those girls I have feelings for. I edited my previous post to reflect that, but I guess you made this one before I changed it. I've never had a problem talking with girls I didn't fancy, only the ones I do. It's been that way my whole life.


Maybe you shoud try those you dont fancy. I'm sure you met some hot one that you dont fancy (you know those who we like to have a good F*CK).

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Morose
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PostPosted: Wed Jun 18, 2008 9:37 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

IBM wrote:
Maybe you shoud try those you dont fancy. I'm sure you met some hot one that you dont fancy (you know those who we like to have a good F*CK).


If she makes me horny, that would fall into the fancy catagory.

Regards

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PostPosted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 11:07 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'm not love-shy, I'm human-shy. I just don't (can't) enjoy being around people.

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PostPosted: Tue Aug 26, 2008 4:50 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Haha I guess I suffer from this. I can add it to the list.

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PostPosted: Thu Aug 28, 2008 2:58 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I would say i'm love-shy, but im 15 years old.


I'm pretty sure im just not being shy though.

It got worse over time

My 1st girlfriend I asked out in person(and had a HUGE panic attack in my life, i was SHAKING when i asked her out)... But during the relationship i couldn't get intimate at all, she tried to kiss me once but i literally leaned back and was shaking/panic attack and i couldn't do it.


My 2 other gfs I didn't ask out in person because i was so scared of a panic attack, but i couldn't kiss them either(2nd one dumped me fast, 3rd one i suspected cheated on me shes kinda a whore..)

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Alexx
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PostPosted: Wed Sep 17, 2008 7:10 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Unfortunately I can relate to this.

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Richey
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PostPosted: Thu Sep 18, 2008 4:30 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Quote:
I actually have been trying to improve my self esteem/confidence, and earlier today a woman did try to 'chat me up'. The only problem was that she was about 5'11" 200+ Lbs and looked like she was about 19 years old. She seemed like a very nice girl, but I'm not looking for a nice girl, I'm looking for a naughty girl. I just wasn't interested.


you are joking right?

there are so many things wrong with that comment. .

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CK23
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PostPosted: Thu Sep 18, 2008 5:25 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I can relate to this myself... i feel terrified of physical contact with a lady... for one thing, i'm really very shy... can't even look a woman in the eye cos of the fear of being rejected and i have weak confidence so i cant imagine myself getting intimate... i feel scared to death at having to perform... and it feels like i'd pass out if a girl would get physical with me... the only way i could be comfortable was to be controlled by her, not abusively but in a caring affectionate manner... that way i could do stuff to make her happy and just making her happy would be the best thing for me....*apologies for the mushiness*.... Embarassed

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